<p>I’ve been thinking about how badly i want to go to penn, and how even when people tell me not to be devastated if i dont get in, i probably still will be. i know it’s a little early to talk about coping strategies when i don’t even know if i’ve been accepted or not, but i want to make Dec.14 as least stressful as possible. </p>
<p>so, how will you guys cope if you are deferred or rejected?</p>
<p>Obviously, I'm not ED, but from other disappointments in my life (including yesterday's SAT scores) I would reccomend just letting out all your anger, resentment, unhappiness whatever at once...unless this leads to you like killing your brother or something. Just let it all out...and just stew for a while. After a couple days I always find I'm more calm and able to think more logically than if I try to hold it in</p>
<p>if i dont get in, ill be sad and happy. although i wont get into penn at least ill have a shot at other schools...go princeton, CMU, and CU Boulder!</p>
<p>my friend, who applied early to cornell, and i already have a plan for when we get our rejection letters: go to mrs. field's and buy the mini cookie cake, having them write on it "Ivy League - Rejected!" and then eat it up, just the two of us. we'll probably get sick and fat from it, but oh well lol. sugar does wonders when you're feeling down ^_^ lol</p>
<p>dont worry too much. i know its really stressful, and im freaking out too (i burned myself cooking today and didnt even feel it cause i was thinking about college. but i just keep telling myself that penn doesnt equal success, and getting accepted wont validate my life.</p>
<p>I recommend the sour grapes approach:</p>
<p>"I'm better off not going to that crime ridden, roach infested school anyway..."</p>
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<p>oops i spelled "deferred" incorrectly in the thread title. lol guys ur coping strategies are funny.</p>
<p>Eat ice cream.
Sob.
Eat more ice cream.
Sob.
Tell myself that it's okay, 'cause I know I'm at least going to college (I got in to Rutgers, my safety).
But sob more, because I know in my heart Penn is my 1st choice.</p>
<p>Sob.</p>
<p>I'd see it in a very positive way: means I am not taking on HUGE DEBT and retain the option of going for free to UConn</p>
<p>I don't expect to get in to Wharton, so I know what I'm getting before I buy it. On a regular basis, I prevent myself from dissapointments by being realistic and knowing what is the most likely outcome. </p>
<p>[personal thoughts]</p>
<p>For example, some girl wants to go out with you, but you know she cheats on her boyfriends all the time. Then when you go out with her and find out she cheats on you, you are upset. Now if you had thought about it, she had cheated on people all the time in the past, so you should've known she would cheat on you as well. Therefore, the best thing would be to go out with her and enjoy it while you can; then you move on with no upset feelings.</p>
<p>I know Wharton takes like 20% ED applicants (even less this year).... Here's how I look at myself: I got 2280 SATs, top 2% of class at a really competitive HS, I'm not a recruited athlete, I have no major hooks, I'm a white jewish male from Connecticut, I have lots of passionate ECs that I've dedicated myself to, my Math 2C score is sub-par 720, my "Why Penn?" essay was super generic typical reasons, my personal essay was big risk that could miss easily, my recs are amazing, my interview went really well.</p>
<p>When I look at all of that, I figure I'm right in the middle of the pack of Wharton EDers which means I miss out on the top 20% that get in. Therefore, I EXPECT to get a defferal.</p>
<p>[/personal thoughts]</p>
<p>I will admit though, I'd be ****ed if I get flat out rejected.</p>
<p>"my friend, who applied early to cornell, and i already have a plan for when we get our rejection letters: go to mrs. field's and buy the mini cookie cake, having them write on it "Ivy League - Rejected!" and then eat it up, just the two of us. we'll probably get sick and fat from it, but oh well lol. sugar does wonders when you're feeling down ^_^ lol"</p>
<p>that would work if both of you were rejected, but what if one of you got in while the other didnt. that would be devestating. then all you can do is watch as your friend bask's in the glory of acceptance while you miserably watch from the si-Im not helping am I? (lololol that was supposed to be a joke, dont hate me. take life a bit more lightly. who cares about penn? i mean uconn is just a few states away, same thing right??)</p>
<p>skier- How do you think you would you compare to other applicants if you had applied to the college instead?</p>
<p>if I had chosen the college, I would feel confident about my chances given my stats and the comparingly low increase in college EDers compared to Wharton/SEAS/Nursing. I would definately think my odds would be like 60% just based off of stats of people who have gotten in before. Plus 5 people from my school are applying to the college and I'd standout with higher stats when compared to them....</p>
<p>suck it up and move on. dude. seriously, do you realize the overwhelming majority of the succesful people in life who didn't go to HYPS or Wharton?</p>
<p>just be glad that you dont look like this:</p>
<p>(and if you do, you have my sympathies)</p>
<p>he didn't really mean it that way...</p>
<p>lmao... I'm glad I don't own a dog like that</p>
<p>joethemole:</p>
<p>O boy, you taught me. I was convinced that you had to go to HYPS or Wharton to a success. Shocking...</p>
<p>i've convinced myself that i've been rejected... so once i do get the rejection letter, i'll be very well prepared</p>
<p>I think you have to just prepare yourself mentally for anything, and be ready to make adjustments. After all this, it's hard to imagine actually KNOWING!</p>
<p>i disagree with collegecountdown. dont "prepare" anything. in fact, do the opposite of preparing: purposely forget about it. I know it sounds hard, but in the RD round last year, i forced myself to completely forget about apps during March. When April 1st came along, i was more caught off guard than anything. "Whoa, its already time?"</p>
<p>In the EA round, i was always really nervous and anxious, and my deferral hit me like a pile of bricks. But by purposely forgetting about the apps in March, by April i was totally fine with acceptances, rejections, and waitlists.</p>
<p>DogDay - Probably a healthier way but easier said than done, especially, like you said when it's that first early decision. But I'll try.</p>