Missed Sophomore semester 1 due to medical reason

Well, the dept of edu does not allow medical leave of absence nor to restart school year next Fall. Hence we do not have that option. There is however an education code that allows leave of absence to 1% of students in school for reasons other than medical…like if they want to go on supervised travel, work or intern etc. I have asked he school district for that option but no one has answered for the past 1.5months. I have sent several reminders. Yet no answer.

Ideally he should be allowed to restart sophomore next year. But either there are no provisions for that or our public school consists of politically motivated heartless staff who don’t care to make it happen. From their silence, it is apparent that either they cannot make it happen or that they do no want to make it happen. So ultimately, it will not happen!

Someone in the thread said that my son’s story will make a great college essay as long as he does not complain about or blame the school. Well, the reality is that public schools are to be blamed. They and their negligence it the reason my son is injured. As well as, they have a lot of powers but choose to do nothing to support a student’s education needs. In reality, a major reform is needed to bring justice to the many students who fell victim in the hands of these power mongers in public schools who are very well protected by lawyers and government immunities. It is impossible to write a college essay without calling out the reality…which will be taken as offensive by other educational institutions, which again may not be any different than public schools! I think it is time to question the need to send our kids to colleges/educational institutions that have built up a fortress around themselves to do as they please and there is absolutely nothing a single student can do to get justice if they wronged them.

“Someone in the thread said that my son’s story will make a great college essay as long as he does not complain about or blame the school. Well, the reality is that public schools are to be blamed. They and their negligence it the reason my son is injured.”

I recommended that, and I still would not be overly negative in an essay, you can definitely have your son express his frustrations though. And you will need staff down the road for recs etc. However if the school caused his injury and they’re being this difficult , you have to get some kind of advocate to help, as parents have rights and influence. Can you get him on a 504 or IEP? Anyway colleges are a lot more supportive, tutors, office of disabilities and other services, so I wouldn’t generalize your experience to all higher ed places.

We went through a very similar issue with DS18. He missed over half the school year during his sophomore year due to illness and our state also does not recognize medical withdrawal for high school. I was only able to get any concessions after reaching out to the school board but we’re only partially sufficient. The only way you can get any control over the situation is to homeschool. I strongly recommend that you reach out to some of your local homeschool groups and see what your options are. You may be able to structure your school year in such a way that your son can heal. I wish I had. Everything did work out in the end. My DS has been accepted to 3 colleges with excellent scholarships. Keep fighting for your son. The school system truly does not care and you are his only advocate.

theloniusmonk, appreciate your post very much. Makes me think indeed about the reco that the staff would need to provide. My DS15 had a great rapport with them all and they seemed to be supportive initially but now have all gone silent since it became apparent that his injury is no “mild” concussion, which they presume is no big deal. The school district has engaged their lawyers and every word anyone from the school or district utters, which is very meager, all comes filtered through their legal team. I have no hopes that they mean well. I did ask for a 504 and they put out a 30-minutes meeting to check eligibility, initiate, discuss with 10+ attendees on symptoms, come up with accommodations and to sign off…all in one sitting, which sounds very odd to me although I have no experience with this type of thing. I asked for IEP and pointed to the IDEA (Individuals with Disabilities Education Act) eligibility criteria, which includes Traumatic Brain Injury. Yet the director Special Ed said that they would need to go through the battery of evaluations and results process which would be a 90day process and in the end my DS15 may not qualify as he is also a qualified GATE student. I have requested to start that process still.

RealisticRealist, thanks for sharing your story, it gives me hope for my son. Will check out homeschool option although I’m not so sure about it. May be will go with Charter school independent study program which runs more or less like homeschool with the school managing the bells and whistles of the formalities. But they are severely short of higher level subjects, which then need to be completed at local community college or via the extremely limited options to enroll concurrently in AP classes at resident public school. It does not look like a great solution, but under the circumstances, nothing looks like a good solution.

I am thinking seriously to get my son out of here to a different country that is supportive of children suffering due to medical reasons.

Your school district is obligated to provide homebound instruction for students who cannot attend school. You need to contact the special education administrator in your district and request a meeting and ask that the nurse be present at this meeting. You will need to bring all of the relevant medical information with you information.

The school should draw up a health plan and either an IEP that specifies home instruction, an health plan that specifies home instruction, or a 504 plan that specifies home instruction.

And yes…1:1 instruction can keep a student up for an hour or two a day. Usually only one or two subjects are addressed. Remember, this will be the ONLY student present.

I would wager a weeks pay the folks providing home instruction are not volunteering to do so…they are being paid. They are being paid to deliver the course material to your student.

Colleges are very understanding of medical disruptions in school.

Your son has some significant medical issues…and is presumably under a doctors care. Do you really think going to a different country is a good idea?

What are you asking the school district to provide? Have the agreed to a home instruction plan? Has this been written up? WhT are the accommodations IF your son is unable to do the work from time to time. Those accommodations need to be part of the plan as well.

You have been give some good options on this thread but it seems like none of them are what you want.

Before I started this thread, I had already exhausted discussing all options with our school district and reached a point of frustration.

So I did ask for Home Instruction from Special Ed director and kept district nurse in the loop. They are updated with doctor’s notes and all symptoms we notice at home. However, they don’t want to move forward (they are quiet, no response to my email request).

Instead they sent an IEP assessment plan to go through the 90day cycle with their standard process, which will delay starting HHI.

The district website says that HHI will be administered by Special Ed if a student is qualified for IEP, or otherwise the student services will manage HHI.

The CA dept or education says that Home and Hospital Instruction program is implemented differently in each district at their discretion.

In our school district, HHI does not include tutoring, no online learning tool provided ether. The assigned educator will deliver work from school, gather finished work back to teacher and can administer tests. There was no mention of how tutoring/learning occurs, it appears the student has to self learn. Because they don’t answer or clarify questions, it makes me think there are gaps in services which they do not want to address.

The medical condition itself is such that he is unable to tolerate learning new things, triggering symptoms at various levels of tolerance by subject. The injury has caused new acquired learning disabilities that we don’t understand how to deal with. I have explained this to the district and said that a special education teacher may probably understand and be able to provide learning solutions that actually might help him study something rather than putting it all on hold until he fully recovers, which we do not know when, although hoping he recovers soon. The district is mum!

I found out about and asked to provide details of 504 and then the district nurse agreed to initiate it. Soon after another staff took over claiming he was 504 coordinator for the school and restarted the whole thing saying he needs to first determine eligibility! Then he went on to schedule a 30-minute meeting with all required parties for a typical 504 and said everything will be concluded within that 30-minute meeting from determining eligibility to sign-off. We have thin meeting next week. Although other parents and education specialist have said that this is odd that htey want to close it all in 30mins, which would not allow us opportunity to even discuss the accommodation needs, or to understand what accommodations are available to request.

The school district’s intent is messed up. This is because the injury happened in their premises, under their responsibility but they were negligent, provided defective equipment, no safety instruction, no formal coaching on Badminton, allowed competitive Badminton players into PE Tennis class because PE Badminton class got full. The school has a strong Badminton varsity team and 50% of class wanted to try out, and be part of PE Badminton. The teacher reluctantly allowed Badminton free play saying he will not coach them because the course syllabus included coaching for Tennis only. My DS15 plays Tennis only and found Badminton challenging. The teacher did not group them by skill level and put the students at risk. There are major negligence issues in the way my child was injured. While my family was aggrieved and dealing with the grave medical issues, the school went on to cover-up the incident with lies upon lies. This indicated to us that something was amiss or why would they lie! They are since doing everything including talking through their lawyer, in meager words. They think a lawsuit is up. The reality is we cannot sue them, especially with all those cover-ups in place and them being a government entity with several immunities, no lawyer wants to take up the case, it very hard to prove that the school was at fault. The PE teacher was not supervising either. This was a new school for us this year, the student body is made up of newly imported immigrants, the culture here is such that they have no idea about safety instructions, nobody reported my son’s injury as he sat out of game dazed and disoriented, my son lumbered along after class and came to pick up area to go home (this was the last period of day; so the school got away saying my son did not inform the teacher)! I called, emailed, immediately after pickup and informed school that something is wrong and that he looks very unwell. But that does not count. My heart wrenches to think the way my child is wronged many folds. First with the injury, then with denying him the dignity by not acknowledging truth about his incident, thirdly denying timely and appropriate education services he needs.

This country is messed up, all institutions are run by lawyers, there is no soul, not even in education business. I came from another. Though my country of birth is not half as prosperous, yet the ethics upheld in schools and medical is far higher there. So yes, moving out of this country is probably a good idea, because as a commoner, I can’t do anything here to bring about justice for my child!

It is heartening to know colleges are very understanding of medical disruptions, at least they acknowledge the need for medical leave of absences!

There are so many college in the US, and not enough students who want to enroll in many of them! Of course its possible to get admissions for all.

I’d like to challenge the Ivy leagues to accept students whose education was marred by injuries sustained in educational institutions as the student went about being a student, nothing more! Will this happen? If not, then I don’t think colleges are very understanding!

It sounds like you need a place to vent and that’s reasonable. You are understandably very upset. This is a place where you can get it all out without impacting your son. So vent here.

In case you’re not just venting, though, and would like a little feedback from an unbiased perspective… get all this out of your system before talking to your son’s school administration, much less before you discuss any of this with potential colleges. Since you’re not going to get legal help with this, an adversarial approach will be counterproductive. Calm and reasoned may get more cooperation from the school - which you and your son will benefit from. The fact that they’re starting to shut down communication with you is a bad sign. You want them working with you, not circling the wagons to ward off the crazy lady. And it is incredibly tough and frustrating to be restrained and measured when you’re worried about your child, but think of it as just another tough thing you do to help your son.

As for colleges, hopefully this will all be a nonissue by then. If you can work this out with the school and your son can get back on track, this will just be a speedbump that can even be fodder for a good admissions essay. Again - vent here - do not discuss any of this detail you’re posting here with a college. If worse comes to worst, your counselor can mention to the colleges that your son had a medical issue that impacted his studies in 10th grade but that he persevered and continued to do well in future grades.

Yeah I did vent a lot along the way, I agree. The purpose of the post was to see if I was missing anything that might help my son’s situation. Thanks to all for contributing.

Just watch how you present this. Issues with your district and situation are one thing. Comments like, “This country is messed up, all institutions are run by lawyers, there is no soul, not even in education business” and some of the other rage only cloud the issue.

Every state has a Protection and advocacy agency to assist families. Contact the CA Protection and Advocacy group and ask for their help.

Yeah I did call Disability Right California. I’m yet to find out how they can help.

lookingforward, I was generalizing because of the way we are also let down by the local concussion clinics at prestigious institutions who work “closely” with the area public schools and are in the business of protecting these school not be in bad light, at the expense of the patient’s medical records rigged with erroneous information and the overall report having a theme to cautiously trivialize the patient’s concussion, without a mention of the official diagnosis anywhere on the report, while using non-standard terms that have the potential to trivialize the medical condition, calling it “mild post concussion symptoms”!!! It is simply appalling to see the collusion! They record false information saying “family reportedly has a history of migraines”, which that is a blatant lie and a first ever for anyone in our extended families. Their aim is to paint a dirty picture as though the headaches were not associate with the recent brain injury. It’s pathetic! Trying to sugar coat what these institutions have done, in order to gain acceptance into an undeserving college would be hypocritical. I would want my son to enroll in a college that acknowledges all of the ordeals faced, in their naked truth. We choose to reject institutions that have no ethics or are supportive of those who have no ethics!

College decisions come later.

And top colleges, since you brought this up, will still expect hs educucation and performance that prepare a kid for that college’s rigors.

I’m sorry he’s going through this, but you seem to be saying there is no one at all in the broad CA medical community to support you and all lawyers are in collusion. That’s not a typical experience.

And if you have in some way threatened the hs, then they may not be in ordinary communication with you.

First of all, you do have legal rights. Contact the Office of Civil Rights in your area. Federal law supersedes state and local law. Give them the report in chronological order. Separate medical from educational. Once they are involved, you will see big changes. It is an emotionally draining process, stay focused. I used to prepare for the phone calls, meetings, etc. with meticulous notes and a poker face. I tried to never display emotion. I practiced the conversations at home as if I was an attorney, preparing for a case and laying it out for a judge or jury. It is VERY difficult, but I found it worked best for my situation.

ECmotherx2, thank you so much. Yeah this thing has made me sick with anxiety and stress levels are so high, I feel weak and unable to get keep up my energy.

lookingforward, I have no idea how to get in touch with board CA medical community. But at the outset, no doctors wants to be involved with paperwork, and the only sports concussion clinic in the area run by a UC has doctors who refuse to get involved with providing supporting notes to set up 504 or get IEP evaluation done. It has been a nightmare to deal with the politics at medical offices, in addition to the school politicians.

Well the school covered up the incident with lies. I asked them to correct it! For heaven’s sake, it my son’s truth that they are distorting after injuring him due to utter negligence all around! They then feel threatened? So expecting truth to be recorded is a crime and I should send my kid back to school at his own peril? Nonsense! When will the school take responsibility for my kid losing his future on their campus?

Yeah, my kid is/was a gifted student, all set for top colleges until this disaster! So the top colleges do not accept 504 and IEP? Just curious. I never thought of this until now.

Lookingforward, I forgot to mention…yes the moment we mention the injury happened at school…all lawyers run away!

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