<p>I am worried. I haven't heard from my son since we spoke yesterday afternoon. Since his school is just 20 minutes away, I popped over at his dorm last night with the movie for his film class he asked for, and some food. But he wasn't in his room or answering his phone, I gave it to the guy he shares a bathroom with (2 singles w/ a bathroom in-between). All day today, I've tried to get in touch with my son and nothing. I call his cellphone and get a recording. I sent him emails, and see they're not opened. What should I do?</p>
<p>If this is unusual, maybe the residential life or security department can do a well student check?</p>
<p>However, my guess is he’s likely locked in a library somewhere as Finals are coming up.</p>
<p>Is it possible that he just didn’t charge his phone? Or that he lost or misplaced it? If he misplaced his phone, he might not realize you are trying to get a hold of him. Also, the roommate might not have told him to call you - if he even gave him the film - he might have gone off to class and forgotten. If you do not hear from your son by the morning, I’d suggest calling the Dean of Students at his school and asking if they could track him down for you. If he has Friday classes, they should be able to determine if he is there. I know you are worried, but try not to panic.</p>
<p>My hope is that he’s locked in the library, but as he has a single, I’m not so sure. </p>
<p>I was thinking of calling the RA, but I don’t know her phone number. It occurred to me that we don’t have a second option if I can’t reach him via his cell.</p>
<p>You could try sending him an e-mail. Our son is always forgetting to charge his phone.</p>
<p>mathmom, she’s already done that. </p>
<p>limabeans, check Facebook, perhaps? Or look for other evidence that he’s been online?</p>
<p>To find me if I weren’t answering the phone/responding to emails, all anyone would have to do is check CC…</p>
<p>If you have access to his banking info, check for activity on his debit or credit card and see if that looks like usual activity.</p>
<p>One of my D’s was horrid about calling back or emailing back when she was in a really busy ‘crunch’ week, but I could check her bank account since my name was on it, too, and see that her normal charges were happening.</p>
<p>Oh! I think all of us moms can understand that sick feeling. 
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<p>Does he Skype? Check to see if he is logged in there. And yes, see if there’s any activity on his facebook page since you last spoke, or any clues about where he went. </p>
<p>Could you get in touch with any of his friends?</p>
<p>I agree with PAO2008. Give him tonight to re-materialize; if he doesn’t, then check with the school in the morning. Keep us posted, so we can all yell at him when he turns up.</p>
<p>You talked to him yesterday afternoon, so you know he was OK then.
You started worrying last night when he wasn’t in his room and now he’s ignoring your calls and e-mails.
Maybe he stayed the night somewhere other than his own room and he doesn’t feel like getting yelled at.</p>
<p>I assume this is unusual, that he often checks in? </p>
<p>My S is terrible about responding to my efforts to communicate, so this would not worry me unless I said “answer this unless you want campus police knockng at your door” which usually gets an answer, and got no answer.</p>
<p>I guess I would contact residential services or the RA at his dorm to ask them to check that he is OK and ask him to contact you. I feel for you and understand your concern</p>
<p>In the morning, the Residential Life office should have the contact info for the R.A. in the dorm. The R/A. doesn’t have to find your kid, but can leave a note on your kid’s door telling him to phone home. That could take all day to be seen, of course. </p>
<p>Res Life sounds like a better start than phoning the Dean of Students.</p>
<p>If you can’t stand waiting through the night, the Security crew might also have the list of R.A. phone numbers.</p>
<p>Call the cell phone provider and check the records to see if he is using his phone to call/text anyone else. If he is following his normal pattern, then he is probably fine. Try not to get the RA or dean involved unless you strongly suspect he is missing (and not just being an idiot about calling his mother back).</p>
<p>thats what I do, except since D is still on our family acct, I can just check on line to see if she is using her phone.</p>
<p>sure you’re not just panicking? I personally am terrible with keeping up with phone calls in college, and really only do a call about once a week.</p>
<p>Also, try emailing his school email; he probably checks that all the time.</p>
<p>In my residence life days, I had parents get patched through to my office from the main Residence Life office a couple times for this reason. It was unusual then (so I remember the instances pretty well), but in this day and age, we’ve gotten so used to instant communication that I have to imagine most Res Life offices are used to those sorts of calls.</p>
<p>The first time it happened, I went flying upstairs because the student in question was one of my favorites. She was a music student, so I was happy to hear violin music coming from the room. Sure enough, she was in there. Turns out she had an exam of some sort coming up and was holed up in the music practice rooms. She was “offline” for a day or so.</p>
<p>The second time it happened, I couldn’t find the student and his roommate hadn’t seen him. We were able to consult the ID card system and saw that the student had slide his card into the dining hall and had been in the dorm. He was probably just another busy college student who couldn’t imagine his mother worrying back at home.</p>
<p>Good luck! I hope this all works out!</p>
<p>limabeans-- let us know when you find your son so that we can tell him to pick up when you call next time.</p>
<p>No, but seriously, as a veteran worrier, I ‘get’ it, though I’m sure it’s fine. :)</p>
<p>OMG, I thought this was a joke…
He is hiding from the incoming choppa, lol!</p>
<p>What news this morning, limabeans?</p>
<p>Did you find him? Hope alls well, please let us know.</p>