<p>I don't really know what to feel anymore. I'm a transfer student going into my second year of college and I fought so hard to get into the school of my choice, and I got in. I was excited, and I still am, but it's as if reality is setting in all once now. I'm heading off to a completely unfamiliar environment and I'm not sure what to expect. I keep fearing that this is all a mistake and maybe I should have just stayed at my first college. I hate not knowing what to expect. This might sound corny, but I'm just like will I make friends? Will the curriculum be too for much for me to handle compared to my old small, unknown college? Was this all worth it?</p>
<p>So today is my move-in day (And no, I have not left my house yet lol), and apparently I have 3 roommates. And I'm not very good at meeting new people my own age. I'm not a boring or anti-social person; I have a good amount of friends from high school and other places that I can be wild and funny with because I'm comfortable with them, but I tend to keep to myself when meeting new people as a "defense mechanism" in fear of rejection or whatever.</p>
<p>And coming from strict private religious institutions my whole life, I'm anticipating people to be a little bit different than what I am used to (I'm not a prude or holier-than-thou by the way). But what concerns me that most is the fact that I have to leave my mother alone. She's a single mother and my parents went through a bad divorce a few years ago. So it's just going to be her alone left in the house because I'm the last child. My mom is a positive and self-dependent person and she tells me she'll be fine, and I believe her for the most part, but it just depresses me that I can't be always be there for my mom when she needs me, and that she has to stay in a big house all alone. And I feel like it's going to be hard for me to enjoy my college experience knowing that my mom is all alone having to work nearly 7 days a week to help keep us and herself afloat.</p>
<p>Has anyone had to deal with anything similar?</p>
<p>every single person in the whole world at one point or another. Your feelings are normal. Go to school, have a good time, work hard, keep in touch with your mom, and visit her when you can. But you have to get out and live your life. And there are so many different types of people in this world. Some you will like, and even understand, others you will learn how to gracefully distance yourself from. That is life.</p>
<p>Ricky93 you sound like a wonderful caring young adult. Let this shine through when you are meeting people and you will clearly make new friends - just remember to give it some time. As for your mom, I’m sure what will make her happy is seeing you happy (I speak from experience as a mom ) Of course you will have your ups and down, and your mom knows this too. Send your mom lots of updates, hold on to that open-minded compassionate spirit your post conveys and you will do fine!</p>
<p>That last paragraph about your mom was touching, I admit.</p>
<p>I don’t know if I should keep giving advice because I feel I come off as so rude compared to what other members say. What I was going to say was, that your mom will not be there forever and you can’t be so attached to her your whole life to the point where you don’t even want to leave and make a life for yourself. When she’s no longer around, it’s gonna really hurt you, real bad. I love my mother as much as the next guy or girl, and I can definitely say she is also my best friend, she’s the only person I can actually tell ANYTHING to, and the only person who can see me cry, and the only person I genuinely trust. But I understand she will not be there forever, and regardless, you’re gonna have to be without her one day and make your own life.</p>
<p>You don’t have to either be attached to your mom and stay living with her, or leave to another school and never see her again. You can do both but balance it, go away for college and keep in touch with her regularly and visit her when ever you can.</p>
<p>I completely, completely understand your situation. Being the only child, I’m closest to my parents. I’ve moved around a lot so I don’t even have a close friend my age. The hardest thing is moving across the country and leaving my parents behind to deal with their troubles. They don’t even talk to each other anymore, but at least with me in the house the fighting is minimalized.</p>
<p>I’ve worked my tail off and dreamed of attending an elite school. But now, I don’t feel as excited as I should be. </p>
<p>The best you can do is to get good grades and not have your mom be worried about you.</p>
<p>It’s not unusual to have the charm of going to college wear off.</p>
<p>As a rising senior entering in a week, I can pretty much categorize my four move in experiences as the following (I haven’t moved in yet, but I know how I’ll feel):</p>
<p>Freshman year: OMG YAY COLLEGE! FREEDOM!
Sophomore year: I’m no longer a freshman! Can’t wait to see everyone again!
Junior year: Meh, I’m old. Still would be nice to see people.
Senior year: I need to find ways to avoid freshman swarms. Also, I’m really old now. Though people time is still just as appreciated as before.</p>
<p>I am not going to say you are never going to have feelings of worry and times where you are lonely. but try to relax and breath. many people, if not all have some mixed feelings about moving. i was slightly nervous on move in day. but you know what, enjoy the new chapter in life. it is a chance to really move on to the next step. and it is not like it is good bye to your mom forever. sure she will need to adjust too, but it is a hard adjustment sometimes when parents arent single. she will be fine though. so try to enjoy your time in college and make the most of it.
by the way as a CHrist follower myself, I have no trouble making friends. I do not judge or condem anyone, yet i am honest about my beliefs and what i will and will not. if you do not want to party then dont party. it is ok you will still make friends, just dont shy away from someone because they do</p>
<p>A little late, but I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for your generous advice and words. I just finished my first week at my university and I went OK. My mom is doing fine and I think I’ll be ok with it soon enough as well.</p>
) Of course you will have your ups and down, and your mom knows this too. Send your mom lots of updates, hold on to that open-minded compassionate spirit your post conveys and you will do fine!</p>