<p>ihs – as disappointing as this is, it’s deferred, not denied, and there’s still a chance for admission RD. A few friends of my son had surprising deferrals from a top D1 school, with one boy being a nationally ranked athlete, recruited by the coach, and a top student to boot. Another had coach support, too, and also was comfortably w/in the mid-50% academic stats of the college. The EA process is a bit baffling to me from the standpoint of the school. What does it really have to gain if it is bound but the student is not? Another athlete’s parent, an alum of that D1 school, says only the truly outstanding applicants at that school are accepted EA and that the colleges use the process to get a good idea of what the applicant pool is like. The three boys deferred EA from S’s school are likely to be accepted RD I think. So, the deferral of your son may be more a statement of what EA is about than anything else, and if he really wants to go there, it may turn out okay in the end, though obviously he needs to pursue other opportunities and/or try to mend any bridges singed in the process. Good luck!</p>
<p>Thanks for the supportive messages. We’re doing OK (DS better than me, probably because I feel more responsible for having encouraged him to become attached to this school).</p>
<p>Monstor, its a school you’re interested in, so PM me if you want more details.</p>
<p>Riverrunner, unfortunately DS is going to be spending his holidays writing RD apps. He knew this could be how he spent his vacation and it was his choice to wait :). So you think we should contact the coach again after a while if we don’t hear back? Those pesky lost e-mails.</p>
<p>royal, possible for RD but their RD accept rate is in the single digits. We’ll have to see but we’re mentally disengaging from the school.</p>
<p>There’s a T20 school he could get into with a coach that wants him but it’s not a super academic fit although not bad. The best school for him academically doesn’t have a team in his sport but he may be heading in that direction, and just go the club route.</p>
<p>ihs76: Definitely contact the coach again - I find it unbelievable that he has yet to email your S - acknowledging this situation is the very least he can do. He is a part of all that you are going through… Good luck with everything -</p>
<p>I was feeling kind of stupid that maybe we were reading too much into his ‘apply early, commit to attend’ request but you all are making me feel better. He never said anything about likelihood of admission but was pleased at sons stats etc. Maybe we should have been more frank and asked him straight up like many of you say you did. Well, it is/was DS’s first choice so we would have gone the EA route there even without coaches support, but we would have kept the likelihood of non-acceptance front and center if we hadn’t had the athletic angle.</p>
<p>I totally understand, and it is SO hard to press-you feel pushy, bad-mannered, and like a helicopter parent.
We encouraged our S to switch from choice 1 to choice 2, because he had struggled between them anyway, but if he had said he wanted to try school 1 even once the coach said he couldn’t give support, we would have let him. He NEVER would have thought of being able to attend this school without the coach’s encouragement. That was part of why I was upset…</p>