Do them so that you can make a more informed decision on whether to add or remove them from your application list.
If I do them and any of them are over 40k, should I just take them off my list entirely (assuming other scholarship and merit aid will not bring it down)?
If you do the net price calculators and see that a school is not affordable, take it off the list. It is important that you do the NPC for each school. Every school calculates aid differently and some may be better for your family than others.
Please do take other posters’ advice to run the online NPCs.
But … absent more details, and in general … for a $100K family income, I’d expect UPenn, Cornell, and Georgetown to give more n-b aid (and be more nearly affordable) than the others. For these and other schools that claim to meet their own definitions of full need, for a $100K family income and commensurate assets, I’d expect the net price (after n-b aid) to be roughly in line with some public schools’ sticker prices for in-state students. Roughly $30K (with ~$45K in n-b financial aid).
But, the devil is in the details. You really do need to run those NPCs. Takes about 10 minutes once you’ve gathered the information.
If you are a NY resident, tuition at Cornell is lower for contracted schools (by about 18k), but then your aid maybe lower because of lower COA.
I don’t understand. You’ve asked the same question three different ways in separate threads. Are you writing an article?