<p>It's been 2-3 weeks since college classes started for me and already my mom does not stop calling me multiple times a day. I came from a conservative family, and I know my mom is probably worried to bits about me, but dear god even someone like me who tries to be patient can't stand it anymore! Sometimes she bugs me about stuff that I really just don't know immediately (such as my final exam schedule and what time exactly will I fly back home for winter break) and then she snaps back at me, saying how I'm going to be screwed for life if I don't find out in the immediate future. My aunt and even my dad thought that her calls were getting annoying.</p>
<p>I've been very busy trying to finish up weekly projects from one of my classes, and I'm the kind of person that absolutely hates it when someone bothers me when I'm working, so of course it becomes my biggest pet peeve when mom calls me when I'm working and I try to tell her to not call me so much from now on. It got pretty bad to the point where we got into an argument one time because I was so fed up and had a bad day that I just told her to "stop bothering me" since she just didn't get the message when I tried to tell her more subtly, but then stuff happened, and now I feel like a horrible person, and I'm torn apart as to how my relations with my mom have been. </p>
<p>My question is, do you think my mom's justified in calling me multiple times every day? Or am I being a little mean? I really just want to have my mom off my back and have her stop calling me to see how I am every single hour because I am perfectly capable of doing things on my own and handling it by myself here in college, and she just does not see that. I am just so tired of being babied by her most of my life.</p>
<p>Tell your mom to join CC and come to the Parents area. We’re all having issues not bothering our students and maybe we can help her understand. </p>
<p>And to answer your question, no, your mom should not be calling you every day. She needs to understand you are on your own. But be kind…I know you are stressing, but she is missing you.</p>
<p>My mom expects me to call her a couple of times a day, actually, lol. I have a bad habit of sleeping through alarms so she’d like me to call her in the mornings to make sure I’m awake and I’ll call her sometime in the afternoon/evening to talk to her for whatever reason. She typically doesn’t call me though because she doesn’t know when I’m doing something. This is my first time away from home and I’m slowly starting to call her less and less but then I’ll feel bad for not calling because she’s (kinda) footing the bill for me to be here and stuff. But the conversations are rarely ever longer than 10 minutes. It’s usually her asking how to check her email or something like that and wanting to know about my day. So it’s not too bad.</p>
<p>I’d be annoyed if she called me all the time for nothing. Tell her that you’re busy doing work and you don’t want your grades to suffer. You’ll call her when you have the time but she’s interrupting your studies and being a distraction. Or just stop answering from time to time and say that your phone was on silent or you left it in your room.</p>
<p>you could either just block her number from your phone or get a new number all together. if she still somehow calls you after that, file some sort of restraining order or stalking charges</p>
<p>Wean her off the phone. Start with “sorry, gotta go, luv ya” (and hang up). Then miss every 3 rd call, then every other call, etc. Send a text message saying .I’m okay…don’t reply though. Send an e-mail when you have airline info or calendar stuff. Say Love you! at the end of the e-mail.
Make a call to her once a week so she knows you’re still going to talk to her and just not cutting her out of your life.
But have someone else in the family with your number so they can contact you easily in case of emergency. Good Luck!</p>
<p>I agree that Mom needs to back off. But she may keep asking about your end-of-term plans because it typically costs less to book a flight well in advance and she wants to get going on that. Throw her a bone by giving her the info (or tell her when the last day of finals is, assuming your profs won’t let you leave early) and then set some clear boundaries. Explain to her that you can’t take her calls during classes etc and perhaps find a time each day to chat with her - for five minutes. After a couple of weeks, trim it down to, say, three times a week. Etc.</p>