<p>I love this thread and hope it doesn’t die quite yet.</p>
<p>My older child is motivated to the nth degree. The second one, equal ability, is much more casual about school - fine with an A- average.</p>
<p>It drives me absolutely crazy that this state of affairs is dicated by birth order and there’s nothing I can do to light a fire under Kid 2 to perform at the level of Kid 1. Do I think Kid 1 will have a better life? Not really. Still, I hate something like birth order should be such a determining factor in my kids’ lives.</p>