<p>What usually happens on move in day to the dorms? Do most people have their family/friends there with them? I figured my parents would want to at least have a look inside my new place and then leave, but yesterday my best friend informed me she planned to come along too and see the campus and meet everyone in my suite. I love her to death, but I feel bringing and old friend with me might make it harder to meet new people, especially if she plans to stay for more than an hour or so. What do you guys think? Should I let her come help me move in, so that she can see my campus, or tell her I'll let her visit once I am settled in?</p>
<p>If she really is your best friend, I think it’s only fair for her to come with you when you move in. She’ll be a sort of comfort during this new change. It’s a huge part of your life and she should be a part of it. You usually won’t meet people the second you move in, so it’s okay to have her around for a few hours. I’m not sure why you wouldn’t want to have her there with you. You guys could just walk around campus and meet people together. Plus if your residence hall has any activities planned, she can just come with you. People bring their old friends to campus to meet their new friends all the time; it’s really not that unusual. Fortunately, my best friend and I go to the same college but if she didn’t, I would’ve loved for her to tag along that first day/weekend.</p>
<p>You’re not meeting everybody the first hour you are there. First night is where it’s at.</p>
<p>im just going to wish you to have a happy and memorable move in day. mine was terrible but i hope yours is great.</p>
<p>okay, thanks guys. I just wasn’t sure if people normally brought friends or not.</p>
<p>What happened at your move in day magneto?</p>
<p>well i woke up that morning super excited to go to school and move in. When I got to the school, there was terrible congestion on the streets so it took about an hour just to get to the checkpoint. then they loaded my stuff from the car on to their mover things, which was fine, but when i got to my room i saw that everything had been thrown around, nearly broke my new lcd tv and fan. My mom and grandmother were ****ed at this point. the icing on the cake happened when we went inside my room for the first time. It was completely trashed by my roommate: Beer cans everywhere on the floor, on MY side of the room as well as his, his clothes everywhere, the closet door nearly came off from his excessive banging. All of this before i got there, which pretty much set the tone for how my experience would be. Then the funny thing, 30 mins later, my roommate came in and pretty much didnt apologize at all though he was a tad embarrassed.</p>
<p>It was hot, people were moving stuff everywhere. Garbage littered the hallways, from move in waste of course. Then, it rained. It was madness i tell you.</p>
<p>Personally, I’d have your friend visit another time. I only had one person helping me during my move-in, and it bothered me to no end to see people with their parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, neighbors, whoever helping them. There are lots of people moving and most dorms have small hallways and narrow staircases. Don’t bring more than you need to get the job done or else you’re going to be in a bad mood and p!ss off everyone else in your dorm.</p>
<p>Looks like you’re going to UCSD?
How far away is that from home for you? </p>
<p>Quite honestly, move in is not the time for friends to come visit. Is she expecting your parents to be driving her? If so, that’s a bit presumptuous on her part.
If she’s driving herself- she’s probably going to have a difficult time parking and what not. Move in on campuses is a mad house.</p>
<p>Why she’d want to do this, I don’t know. It’s not like she’ll really meet anyone anyway. Your suitemates will probably be busy too.</p>
<p>As another poster mentioned, you don’t meet anyone until the first night really.
I’d wait until at least a couple of weeks at school before your friend comes to visit.</p>
<p>yep, its only about an hour and a half away from where I live. My parents would probably drive her. I’ll probably only have a few bags. maybe we’ll go earlier than I actually move in so I can show her the campus before and then she can just take a quick peek in the dorms. I’m just worried she won’t want to leave, I already know I’m going to have trouble getting my parents to just drop me off and go. She’s going to a local cal state so I think she’s freaking a little that I’m going to be moving far away, but it just seems it’d be easier to have her over when I’m not unpacking and trying to coordinate things with my new roomates.</p>
<p>I helped my best friend move into her dorm. Her parents were living out of the country, so it was just the two of us. Her roommate, however, practically brought every person that she had ever met. She was accompanied by both of her parents, step-parents, three siblings, an aunt, an uncle, a cousin, two friends, and her boyfriend. It was ridiculous. Not that you’re in the same situation or anything, I just thought that I’d warn you that it could get your relationship off on the wrong start. It was over 100 degrees on move-in day, and the room was tiny, so we were extremely irritated. They kept getting in the way, because most of them were just sitting around. The roommate didn’t understand our agitation, but she wasn’t very bright.</p>
<p>Hey my moving day i took my mom and my grandmother… I would say if you want to take her do more people to help you carry stuff as for having your parents leave after an hour well idk my mom and grandmother stayed 2 days helping out… going to the store for last minute things, grocery shopping and getting to know the new town i would be staying in. </p>
<p>Good Luck</p>
<p>Damn…I did it by myself. Dunno why you need all those people there.</p>
<p>^ You DON’T need that many people to help. Move-in is possible with 2 people and sometimes 1. [At my move-in, anyone who moved in alone was out of luck because they asked us to unload our stuff outside and just walk things in individually, so you had to make a friend fast to make sure none of your stuff was stolen.]</p>
<p>OP is only considering 3 helpers, though, so that isn’t terrible. At least for me, the main thing I would have against bringing a friend is that she’d be bored stiff and only be your workhorse for the day, which is going to be stressful enough. Terrible time to bring her to a new campus when you don’t even know anyone.</p>
<p>You can do it by yourself…sure…but I welcome the help my family offers. It takes a lot less time with them helping carry stuff.</p>
<p>IMO, I’d rather move in as quick as possible.</p>