My Admissions Story (for you all of you rejects out there)

Now that the craziness of admissions results is pretty much over with, and I’ve recovered a bit, I just wanted to share some thoughts with those of you who are still feeling bummed out about being rejected to your dream school(s).

Let me start this out by saying that I’m a pretty well-qualified student. 2380 SAT on the first shot, 780/770 on my chem and math SAT II’s, so I didn’t screw those up, and my GPA is a 4.0 unweighted. I also took 8 AP’s before this year (6 AP course-load this year) with 5’s on all the exams. Grades have never been my only focus, either, so I’m not one of those dull kids who just study all day; I have played violin for over 9 years in my school orchestra, honors orchestra, and pit orchestra (for 3 productions), been on my school’s debate team for 3 years (varsity 2 years), and been on my school’s mock trial team for 4 years (as a captain for the past 2 years). I also volunteered at my local hospital for 3 years each summer, gathering close to 200 hours thus far, so I had plenty of community service under my belt.

Having the grades for top schools along with a decent group of EC’s, I began to see schools like Hopkins, Cornell, and Penn as my only true “fits” even back in 11th grade, due to their incoming classes’ high academic stats and overall rankings. When people told me that I would be a shoo-in for such schools with all of my “well-roundedness,” my expectations only grew further, which didn’t help me once results came in. Rejected at Penn ED. Rejected at Swarthmore, Hopkins, Brown, Columbia, and Yale RD. Waitlisted at Cornell, a school which I truly thought I would be a shoo-in for.

When I saw these results, I got pretty frustrated; I thought that I did everything “right” when it came to grades, ECs, and even my essays, which I had reviewed multiple times by teachers and friends, so what did these colleges want from me? The truth is, that there is nothing else that I could’ve done to have gotten into those schools. College admissions are a mysterious realm at these top schools; there is no magic key to get in, and just because you didn’t have whatever your dream school was looking for doesn’t mean that you are any less qualified as an individual. Don’t let your college acceptances define your value as a human being, and don’t get hung up over brand-names like the Ivies; your actions will determine your future, regardless of which college you go to, and plenty of lower-level colleges have resources just as great as those of top schools if not greater resources for you to take advantage of.

And with those thoughts, I finally committed to Pitt earlier this week with a full tuition scholarship for all 4 years of my undergrad. Looking back, I’m pretty happy with how things turned out; now I’ll get through undergrad debt-free (would’ve had to pay full tuition at other schools w/ my parents’ incomes, but would’ve been tough since my family’s upper middle-class), and will be able to take advantage of Pitt’s huge research opportunities as well as Pittsburgh itself. I took a spot on Cornell’s wait list on the day decisions came out, but now even if I get off the list, I will still be attending Pitt. I didn’t even apply to Cornell because I truly liked the school; I only applied there because of its reputation, and now that I’m comparing Ithaca to Pittsburgh, I can’t imagine myself living in the middle of nowhere surrounded by farms. It’s not the college that you are going to which counts, but what you are going to do at there that counts, and since I know I will do more at Pitt than Cornell, I choose Pitt regardless of its lesser-known name, and I’m going to make sure I have the time of my life there. A dream school is still just a school; just because you didn’t meet a school’s “institutional needs” doesn’t mean that you should lose motivation in pursuing your own dreams; have fun wherever you go, because in the end, school is school, a place for you to chase your personal goals.

(Apologies for the length, but I hope this helps those of you who are still frustrated feel just a bit better)

@Vinefeather, you will certainly go far in life with the combination of your intelligence and maturity. Congratulations on your exceptional high school achievements and your full scholarship to Pitt. Hats off to you!

Excellent reality check. A Harvard admissions counselor said that if they looked at top test scores,migrates and ECs they would’ve admitted 80% last year…God knows this year! And just because someone admitted one year…if they had applied next year with same stats,mother might not have gotten in.ma Stanford admissions officer shared. Every year they have a different idea of who they want in a freshman class. You can’t take offense to this. There are limited slots period. Love that my son won’t be having debt either. He himself turned down us full paying at Ivy likes too.

I think this is one of the best posts I’ve read on college confidential. Congrats to you!

Congratulations!

Thank you for a terrific post. I think you will love Pitt Honors College. And you are correct that Pittsburgh is a wonderful city for college students. Best of luck to you!

Thank you for sharing. Until you have actually been through the process (as a parent or a student) it is impossible to fully appreciate the “experience.” While I’m surprised / sorry you didn’t be the “fat envelope” from at least one or two of the schools you applied to, Pitt Honors College is a very nice “consolation prize.” You will shine & excel … and graduate debt free. Thank you again for your post.

Very well put. Thank you for addressing the hit that people’s self esteem often seems to take with these things. So many bright and interesting individuals eventually start thinking they’re stupid and worthless, and it is so sad because it’s obviously untrue.

Oh and, Hail to Pitt!

As a graduation speaker once said, make the school put YOU on its resume.

Thank you for a great post. I am also shocked you didn’t get in at one of your reaches, and it put’s my D’s rejections in perspective.
Congrats on full tuition to Pitt!

Congrats to you on your full ride and your maturity in handling what has surely been a tough time. Your attitude will get you far in this world.

One of my kids had similar stats to you and was rejected by some of the schools on your list. Unfortunately, the admissions process has turned into a crapshoot.

A friend’s S went to Pitt on a full ride, had a fabulous experience and finished his fully-funded PhD from CMU. We know several young people through our kids who took a full merit ride at UMD and are now at Ivies, MIT, Stanford, etc. The things you brought to the admissions table don’t go away because School X said no – they are the basis for all you can accomplish in the future, and they got you a package at an excellent school which will enable you to graduate without debt and without burdening your parents. I hope your parents are really, really proud of you.

Nice job. Thanks for sharing

Terrific write-up. Your writing is right there with what Frank Bruni describes in his book, Where You Go Is Not Who You’ll Be. Thanks so much for sharing this.

Go forth and conquer the world. Half the spots at the Ivies are pretty much accounted for between athletics & legacy. As a final note, someone I know went to Harvard for undergrad while playing lacrosse. Now goes to the State flagship for Med school. Turns out that Harvard Med school is full of bright, smart kids from state schools!

When something not so good happens, the best approach is to look at the outcome positively and like the school which you will attend. The real test in life is how one handles bad or “not-so-good” happenings; I can tell you will do very well in your future. Having said this, Cornell campus is very nice. A lot of admission decisions are based on “non-objective” attitudes of the admission officers and a lot depends on your major and essays. IMO I don’t think it’s fair to give the personal essays such a large part in the outcome, but it is what it is, and colleges can do whatever they want to do.

By the way, many of the smartest students I met at the law school were smart kids who graduated from state schools.

@Vinefeather how was your first year at Pitt?