My College Roommate Situation

College Life
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I am a freshman college student living on campus. I was really pumped to find out who my roommate were going to be. Turns out I am in a triple dorm room with two other guys (baseball players). I am not into baseball that much but I tried to interact with my roommates as much as possible. I tried playing MBL and Rocket League on the PS4, not really my kind of games but I just wanted to be good friends with them. The thing is both my roommates were friends with each other 2 years ago, and they have a lot in common. On the other hand, I don’t have anything in common with them, I like watching anime like Naruto, One Piece, ect. and playing games like COD or Nba 2k. The thing is I try to put in an effort to take interest in the things they like but both they don’t seem really enthusiastic about what I enjoy. For example, one of roommates commented on one of the anime poster I had on the wall, I encouraged him to check it out but instead of asking to watch it with me, he wanted to know if I masturbate to one of the girls on the poster -_- (sigh)

It’s bad enough, I have nothing in common with my room mates and feel like the unwanted person in a threesome but it gets worst, much worst.

-They occasionally have (at least 8+) people over at our dorm room, every single day, until 11:00pm, so no privacy…
-Those ppl including my roomates usually toss their garbage in my trashcan, so I have to make multiple trips to the dumpster
-We have nothing in common, and when I try to start a conversation with them, no response so I am kinda like a ghost to them and the company they bring over

  • They play loud music with stereos, so I can’t really do some late night studying for an exam, and practice my guitar. Sure I can go to the library which I have been doing but I really like studying in the comfort of my bedroom, and the library closes at 8:00pm.
  • Whenever their laundry goes missing, or they find clothes that doesn’t belong to them, they assume it is mine, and put it on my area (btw at times they don’t do their own laundry, so they ask others to do it)
  • I am being sexiled, at 8:00pm no less, I have to leave the room for an hour, and do what exactly. My friends are tired and don’t want company over so late, the Gym is closed, the library is close, my only option is to go to the school’s cafe, or walk in the freezing weather all by myself :frowning:
    -Most of the time they never ask me if I ever want to hang out with them, or eat with them at the cafeteria. Heck I remembered when I tried to say hello to them in the cafeteria, no response, or when I actually self invited myself to eat with them, no extra seats, so I have to hang out with other ppl or by myself :stuck_out_tongue:
  • It’s hard for me to bring friends over because we have their friends over 24/7
  • The worst part here is I am being outnumbered, even their friends are telling me to leave the room, which is some b.s. because I am paying for this room. They force me to talk to every girl on campus just to get me out of the room, but I don’t have much in common with any of them. They even urged me to go to the club with a group of girls I don’t even know. Yes, I went with them and danced with 3 of them but to be truthful with all of you, I am not that much of a party person, one of the girls said I was trying to have sex with her while dancing with her, and now I have drama with a group of girls that are my classmates. UGH.
    I TRIED MY HARDEST TO BOND WITH MY ROOMMATES BUT IT’S PUNISHING ME IN THE PROCESS.
    I didn’t ask for all this… I can’t even make YouTube videos which is one of my hobbies because we have so much company over. Yes I had talked with Res life and my CA about the issue, I could try to move out but my only option is another triple :frowning: I dont know if my next experience would be even worse but I know I can not stay in my current situation. I am so tired from the lack of sleep from all the parties in the room. People pitty me and sometimes offers to let me chill in their room, but they too find it annoying how often I ask to come over. My school did me so dirty
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You need to press the issue with the school, your RA, and even get your parents involved. There is no doubt your roommates are breaking several rules as well. And you need to get out of that situation and into another room . . . any room will be better than this. I’m really surprised the school hasn’t gotten involved already.
And lastly you need to be assertive with them.You need to tell them that you need to study and you need your privacy. They are being jerks to you anyway so you might as well stand up for yourself.

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Your right I do need to be more assertive, that is what my twin brother told me yesterday. The talk to me very kindly but at times it does feel like I am getting pushed around. Just yestersay, i took down most of my posters and stripping the room of everything that belongs to me, even the rug

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I’m sorry you’re going through this. It sounds as though you have tried very hard to get along with your roommates, and I commend you for that. You have also been very accomodating. Have you tried talking to them directly? Speak to them in a calm, matter-of-fact voice and try not to sound accusatory or defensive. Explain that having visitors in your room every day and being “sexiled” from your room has gotten to be too much, and that you need time in the room so you can just relax and study in the comfort of your own room. Tell them that you’ve been flexible by spending time away from the room, and suggest that they can party and have sex in other people’s rooms instead of always in your room. Try to get them to agree to some guidelines, by explaining that you’ve tried to accomodate their wishes and it’s just impossible to keep it up . Maybe share your schedules so they can invite their girlfriends and friends up at a time when you are in class. See if your RA has suggestions, as well; he/she might be a big help. And continue to personally visit residential life office to see if something can be done, maybe a better situation will become available. Ultimately, these guys may never be your good buddies, but hopefully you’ll be able to work it out so that you can have the comfort and privacy that you deserve.

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My best option is a room change into another triple. I have discussed this with before but it still happens. It’s not worth the time or energy putting up with it.

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It sounds like this has gotten to the point where you need to get your parents involved. This situation is starting to negativity impact your life. You paid for this room you can use it.

7

Time to pursue a room change.

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Im going to try and look for a new room monday

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Do whatever you have to to get out.