<p>Hi, I'm new to college confidential, but I thought you parents (and others) might be able to help me out. I was accepted at my top choice schools, Middlebury and Wellesley. I visited Middlebury for their preview two weeks ago for the first time. Then I visited Wellesley on Monday and Tuesday for their open campus, also for the first time. I sent in my deposit to Wellesley on Wednesday, but now I think it might not have been the right choice, and that I might have gotten too caught up in the excitement of it all, to realistically evaluate both schools. </p>
<p>I know they are very different, but there are things about each that I love. At Middlebury, I loved the little town, the focus on international and environmental studies, and languages (things I'm interested in majoring in), the idea of a first year seminar, and the organic feel. At Wellesley, I love the idea of a women's college, the great alumnae network, and the proximity to Boston. They both have beautiful campuses, great facilities, and strong academic programs. Wellesley does have a great name (not many people have heard of Middlebury in my part of CA.), not that that makes a difference. </p>
<p>So my problem is, the more I think about it, the more I can picture myself at Middlebury. I know I would be happy at Wellesley as well, but now that the excitement of visiting has worn off, the more Midd seems like a fit for me. So, since I've already sent my deposit in, I could just go to Wellesley, and perhaps regret a missed opportunity (although that would go either way), or I could call Middlebury Monday morning (since I've already sent in my card declining my place in the class), and explain my misunderstanding, and see if I can send in my check that morning. Is this even possible? Is it realistic? Usually I am a very decided person, and meticulous with my decisions... what happened this time?! Will it be for the best as is?</p>
<p>Egad,.... well, call tonight, tomorrow, email, whatever you can to Middlebury...say you sis sent it in as a joke...jk</p>
<p>When did you send in the card, it may be too late and the decision could be out of your hands</p>
<p>at this point, friday night, sleep on it, and unfortuneately, the choice MAY be out of your hands come Monday...by then you may be more settled in your choice</p>
<p>And your post should serve as a warning with regard to those fun addmitted students visits</p>
<p>Just a question -- if you had decided the other way around, do you think you would be having the same second thoughts Do you often second guess yourself? Both are wonderful schools -- I am sure that you will succeed at either one. Just be sure that Middlebury is what you want. If you are normally a very decided person, what made you change your mind? Best of luck.</p>
<p>Anna_belle: They are both great schools, so you can't really go wrong. Maybe you are just suffering from the proverbial "buyer's remorse." Perhaps you would be feeling this way if the deposit had been sent to Middlebury. My daughter has decided to attend Wellesley, and this was a difficult choice as well. I love Middlebury, but I think that they have done an excellent job of packaging the school as well. It is, after all, rather isolated, and many departments they excell in are actually better at Wellesley. If you still feel on Monday morning that you have made a mistake, go with the suggestion of "my little sister filled it in as a joke." Good luck, and feel free to e-mail me privately if you want.</p>
<p>This is probably a dumb question, especially since my D has now gone fully through the college process. But please understand, I did really even see much of this part of things. So Im curious.</p>
<p>Are those cards you send in legally binding or something? Why must the OP lie? Not questioning the morality of it. I am curious why we dont think the OP can just call and tell the school she has changed her mind and wants to take back her declaration.</p>
<p>From my perspective, if the OP feels the same way on Monday, she can and should send the Middlebury card in, call Wellesley and give them a heads up that she is rescinding her acceptance and will follow up in writing, and to please not cash her deposit check.</p>
<p>Colleges are used to this happening. There is no need to lie, not that that should be the determining factor.</p>
<p>After all the preparation and deliberation, choices like this feel HUGE and the grief /relief process when it is actually over always includes some self-questioning. But I think this one is worth taking the advice they give you about not going back and changing all of your answers on the SAT. Your first choice was not careless or thoughtless (at least it sounds that way) and something in your soul said yes to Wellesley over Midd. Unless you are lying awake endlessly and shuddering over this, Wellesley was probably your true choice and it is just the tidal pull of doubt about your own decision-making skills as an adult that are confounding you now. You were probably right the first time and it is ok for that to be true.</p>
<p>It is ok to call both colleges on Monday and change your admission status. They've seen it all. Good news you most likely will be happy at either place so no mistake happened.</p>
<p>um...i had a similar situation last year....and the school in question told me that they had no more room....and i was going to be paying the full 45,000 no F.A>, and this was a top 15 private</p>