My father is an idiot. I need help?

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<p>Recently last couple of month; He bought a two family home. (It is the new pink house they are starting to build in the cities)
In the beginning my mother did not like the house why: the small space and the neighborhood
Space- THE KITECHEN IN THE LIVING ROOM!!!!!!!!!!
Neighborhood- VERY noisy people, I saw my neighbors peeking in the garbage can (ewe).</p>

<p>Those are the least of my problem, the real reason why I am upset is because upstairs (tenant) is a drug dealer [some say a prostitute, if you ask me she is both] my father doesn’t realize that the money he is using for this crummy house he could have bought a one family home. Every time I confront him he says "Well, they are helping me to pay the bills they pay half and I pay the other half, and they are not causing any trouble”</p>

<p>WHAT!! My father seems not to remember he took them court because the first 4 months they were living here they did not pay the bills, AGAIN A DRUG DEALER, not causing problem, hmm </p>

<p>If he not saying that he saying "If I was in a one family home everything will be on me" whatever, you could pay your own dumb bill and control how much money you are spending. His other friend lives in the basement (not permit) but for the time being he is annoying. </p>

<p>He has a very loud voice, when I am sleeping I can hear him loud /clear if he is yelling to his friends on the phone or yelling at his niece (I call it yelling, not talking) everyone tries to tell him to SHUT UP or lower you voice!! (I hear him now what a coincidence!!!) Any ways he pays the bills any time he wants to.</p>

<p>Oh ya I forgot to mention that they came to us when they saw apartment for sale sign (living in apartment that time, was moving in 2 days) she got kick out of the house for not paying the apartment. No place to live. If she is not a drug dealer then what is she? She brings guys up and down the stairs, across the street the store owner got busted for drugs, go upstairs too. How is she able to pay $3,000 if couldn’t pay it few months ago? </p>

<p>I am getting angry of the excuses he (my father) gives my mother and I. I want to tell him to sell the house (when the econ is better) and move to a better home and one family.</p>

<p>Question: but how can I do that?</p>

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<p>I feel so alone right now:(</p>

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<p>You can't. It's not your home, it's not your money.</p>

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<p>You can choose your friends...not your relatives. It might suck but you aren't out on the streets somewhere. It's a matter for you mother and father. You are just an interested bystander.</p>

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<p>Life is totally not fair >_<</p>

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<p>Yeah. It's best you learn that lesson now and remember it. Hopefully you can get around worrying about things you have no control over.</p>

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<p>It sounds like your dad's economic intentions were good as far as buying investment property and getting rental income. But attracting good tenants, collecting the rent and maintaining the building is difficult for most people to manage. Then you have the added difficulty of a bad neighborhood. Perhaps you could offer to help your dad with his rental business. Then you or both you and your dad could look for a community education class on owning rental property. If you can't find a class perhaps you could read a book about it. Then you could help him set up some processes for screening tenants and enforcing your rules. He may also need a bookkeeping system and help with doing the taxes. So you can look at it as an opportunity to learn about the business. </p>

<p>The loud guy sounds very annoying and that would really bother me. Perhaps you could add something to the floor or ceiling to absorb the noise. </p>

<p>Good luck!</p>

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<p>Good advice.</p>

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<p>Thanks for the advice really, it was helpful:)</p>

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<p>lol at least you have Internet access, I used to not even have Internet, but I found out I could steal my neighbors'. Thank god for strong wireless connections.</p>

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<p>honestly, it doesn't sound like your dad is the type of person to listen to or value other people's opinions/input, so there's really nothing you can do except hang in there.</p>

<p>try to look at some of the positives, at least you have a home. ok im not really helping...!</p>

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<p>Not your problem.</p>

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<p>Well, it is her problem (situational). There just isn't anything she can do about it, directly.</p>

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<p>Wait, my father is a good listener but money is tight on him and he has stress, he made a mistake, he just needs to realize it.</p>