<p>Okay, I'm having trouble working things out here.</p>
<p>First, jump three years ago, when I was an eigth grader, I had this huge crush on this guy I'll call Jake. Jake is really nice and sweet, and super popular and hot. So I have a crush on him until presently. We had no classes together 9th, 1 semester 10th (photo) and 2 this year (ap bio and precalc). So he started acting weird in precalc Monday. He started talking to me, and we're in totally different cliques. He's popular, while I kinda don't have a reputation. No one really notices me, but he's always been nice to me. But still, most people think I'm nice but don't really care about me at school. well MOnday, at the end of class, he starts talking to me, asks me how my day was, other small talk. Tuesday, he jokingly made all these sounds (he sits behind me) because he knows it annoys me, all jokingly of course. Well, today, he starts acting very strange. First, he gives me a big hello how was your day as soon as he walks in, not like he had to wait a period like on Monday. Secondly, he starts singing all these songs with my name in it, whether real songs or ones he has made up it. Thirdly, he's acting really jokingly towards me, like were friends. Fourth, and finally, he asks me if I will go out with him. I say neither. His friend beside him says she didn't say no, I think she likes you (that is correct). He starts whistling my name until the teacher makes him stop. I'm not sure what he really wants. Is he just playing me since I'm kinda neither cool or uncool? Or is he really interested? I did nothing to start this, he intiated it all on his own. I'm really in to him, but maybe I'm wrong about him liking me. What would you suggest? I'm pretty shy, and it's hard for me to talk to guys, but a large part of me doesn't think he would be mean and just be kidding with me because he's a really sweet guy, and has always been nice to me throughout these three years, though we have not been friends at all. Any suggestions?</p>
<p>"part of me doesn't think he would be mean and just be kidding with me" <-- He's a teenage boy, that's what they do. I don't know if this guy wants to rape/humiliate/play you, but he's definitely not serious about you. There's a large gulf between flirting and caring about someone. This might not matter to you if you just want to go out, have fun, and hook up while knowing that it will not lead to any commitment. If you do, please make sure you won't be in any situations where he could hurt you (i.e. having him drive you is probably not the best idea)</p>
<p>wow, you took this a bit too serious. He isn't going to rape me, I do know that. Throw that silly thought away. I know him well enough to know that</p>
<p>He probably likes you but is intimidated by your confidence and poise and uses the joking/singing/etc to keep it a little less serious. My best friend is a guy and has told me what other guys say about me... the number one comment is that I am so confident that they are afraid to ask me out in fear of a brutal rejection. Now, I've never been truely mean or rude to any guys that didn't deserve it. </p>
<p>I would say, if you like him just keep it really casual to start.</p>
<p>Well today, we had a test, so we didn't talk as much. It was a partner test in precalc and I was paired with my friend. He hadn't really said anything to me before class started like he usually would (even before this behavior began), but in the middle of the test, he just turns around towards me and blurts I love you. Okay, blurt is the wrong word. He just looks at me, calls my name, and says it loud enough for most of the class to hear. So I continue with my test. which got me thinking, maybe he's only acting this way to see my reaction. I don't know, my teenager brother isn't really much of a help. He did put his hand on my shoulder when he was singing You are my desire and I want you back by the backstreet boys, using my my name in the songs. Sometimes when I'm talking to one of my friends, he'll just lean forward on his desk and look at me. His friends joined in on the singing today, even this rather shy one. So now I wonder if it's only for my reaction. I'd rather not confront him about it. We'll see if anything happens when thanksgiving break ends (tomorrow and friday off + weekend)</p>
<p>I'm sorry, but guys don't just say "I love you" all of a sudden to a person you hardly ever talk to. I would try to ignore him, and if he stops, you will know it was just a joke, but if he really likes you he will most likely act serious or try to talk to you out of class.</p>
<p>Did he officially ask you out or was it a hypothetical question?</p>
<p>I don't think it's completely unfounded or that he's just trying to provoke you. I think he may really like you but doesn't really know how to express it, especially since you don't seem to be responding/giving hints. I think that he knows that you like him, but may like you as well...as for blurting I love you...I accidentally did that to a guy I had a crush on freshman year..and we ended up dating for three years, so it might not even be intentional, he's just looking for something to say or feels like he has to make it more dramatic each time because you're not responding. I doubt a guy would go to such lengths (singing songs with your name in it) just to bother you.</p>
<p>Now, he literally said," Will you go out with me?" See, I'm not a guy, and there aren't many guys I can ask, so that's why I came here. I really haven't given him any feedback, I didn't think about that. I just kinda smile back. It's just I can't figure out why. He just got moved behind me, and that's when this all started. It's weird because we're not friends, but we're not acquantences either. I know him too well to be an acquantance, but not well enough to be a friend. Another thing is I'm not that attractive, there's about a 100 other girls he could like, I'm not sure why me.</p>
<p>Don't think that way, people perceive other people differently than how people perceive themselves. Your opinion doesn't apply to his opinion. ^^</p>
<p>That was an interesting read. I could listen to these stories all day, which is why psychology on my list of majors.</p>
<p>I think you should wait awhile before making any moves because if he is joking, I don't want you to be hurt. Oh another piece of advice, does he only act like that in front of friends/ohter people? Has he ever done so with you and him only?</p>
<p>well we haven't spent any time alone ever, much less in three days. But when it's a bit more isolated, he has acted very nice and kind, joking with me</p>