<p>So its now may and school gets out in about a month for me. I've hated my freshman year so far simply because I really don't feel like I've made many friends. I'm friends with this one kid that I eat with and study with sometimes but I don't feel that close to the guy honestly because he has his own social circle that I don't really get along with. I spent all of my winter quarter chasing after this girl that kept leading me on and rejecting me so I missed out on a lot of time to make friends. Now that my freshman year is over, how can I salvage my college career? I've gotten horrible grades and barely made any friends and am absolutely miserable here. Also transferring is not an option for me. Isn't freshman year supposed to be the funnest year? Do people have funner years after their freshman year? Any pointers or advice is it too late for me to make friends in college?</p>
<p>You can be my freind :)</p>
<p>Seriously though, what are you involved in outside of academics?</p>
<p>Yes! Get involved! I know you’ve probably heard this a million times, but you’ll make friends. Also don’t let something like a girl get in the way of your studies. You’ll have plenty of other girls you’ll come across. Don’t waste your time and effort chasing one who’s clearly not worth YOUR time.</p>
<p>Redeem yourself during sophomore year!</p>
<p>And no, it’s never too late.</p>
<p>Everyone is going to come back with a semi-clean slate after the summer. You can still be whoever you want. I agree with MushaboomBlue -Get involved! You will meet tons of new people.</p>
<p>Everyone is going to come back with a semi-clean slate after the summer. You can still be whoever you want. I agree with MushaboomBlue -Get involved! You will meet tons of new people.</p>
<p>CN it might be time for you to reach out to someone to help you learn how to make friends. Maybe you could find a counselor who specializes in young people adjusting to adult life. Meet with them weekly or monthly until you get the hang of it and have a few close friends to call on when you need them. Pain is often a sign of growth, but you don’t need to go through it alone. Don’t worry about what year should be the most fun, it’s different for everyone.</p>
<p>Just join a bunch of stuff…you’ll meet tons of people. Are you outgoing? If not it is especially important to just join stuff.</p>
<p>First of all, funner and funnest are not words. Steve Jobs is a moron. Apple sucks.</p>
<p>Second – freshmen year being the most fun is just a crock of … <em>cherries</em>. I don’t think freshman year is the most fun - everyone’s too nervous trying to make friends and fit in and new environment — eh for me freshman year was the least fun, and it was because I hadn’t really found who would eventually become my best friends either. So there’s still time to redeem yourself.</p>
<p>Just learn the lesson not to chase off some girl who isn’t putting out within a few weeks of meeting you. If it ain’t happening, it ain’t happening. If anything, you should be pursuing at least five girls at any given time, or you care too much. Also, on the other hand, maybe you learned now that time should be devoted to making friends before trying to chase some **** tease. Get involved, be open, be friendly, and be yourself - not some guy trying to desperately get everyone’s approval. And don’t hang around idiots that you don’t really like out of convenience. My $0.02.</p>
<p>All of my friends who are in college said freshman year is the WORST year of college. Awkward friendships, difficulties adjusting, and boring intro classes and distribution requirements. </p>
<p>Keep your head up, it will only get better!</p>
<p>Transfer to Wisconsin Madison. That is always the BEST option.</p>
<p>But wait, isn’t U of Wisconsin in Wisconsin?</p>
<p>“kept leading me on and rejecting me”</p>
<p>oxymoron?</p>
<p>Paradox ;)</p>
<p>Seriously, get involved. What are you interests? Video games, sailing, hiking, salsa? Think of a few clubs you’d like to join and search facebook/yahoo/ school website to see which ones were active last semester. That way you’ll know when they start up again fall semester without having to hunt through all those flyers.</p>
<p>People are going to start new year looking for their niches. You know that, you saw it happen this year. Make a point of forcing yourself to be the social butterfly. If you play the act long enough you may find yourself falling into the role easily. When the dorms open get there the first day. Introduce yourself to buddies in your hall. Say hello to people in the elevator. Quickly move in and then get yourself outside and start helping all those ladies move in! I’m sure some guys would be more than willing to join up with you as a ladies moving crew. The guys who agree will also likely be more social themselves, opening you up to new networks in the future.</p>
<p>Make a point to set aside study time every day, preferably at the same time. Then invite people to study with you! Anyone you’ve met from the dining hall/ dorms/ wherever. They don’t need to be in the same class. But hey, this is college. Everyone has work to do. Just make the offer.</p>
<p>Since when is being a freshman really ever considered the best? Relax, you’re just fishing for reassurance here. Freshman year is a learning curve academically and socially. Just make a point to apply your lessons learned to your next three years.</p>
<p>Best of luck</p>
<p>Well I certainly think freshmen year should at least have been enjoyable, though probably not more enjoyable than other college years to come. Try being more outgoing ( if your not already), may help.</p>
<p>hey thanks a lot guys for your kind words of wisdom. I really appreciate and I will learn to keep my head up. I’m going to be traveling this summer and then relaxing at home for a few weeks so hopefully that will help to clear my head and come back with a better attitude. I’m hoping next year will be better, I think I was very overwhelmed by this whole college thing and didn’t really know how to adjust. Now I will try my best to dust my self off and try to change things next year.</p>
<p>Yes…you can definitely change things up when you go back. You’ll be exposed to many new people in your classes, living situation and I’ll echo what others have said - get involved on campus. It’s a great way to make friends.
Good luck!</p>
<p>Yau,</p>
<p>the move-in help is a great idea. As a girl on a campus with few elevators in its dorms, this would definitely catch my attention.</p>
<p>To the Op: besides getting involved, do a sport or start exercising. You’ll feel so much better, and you might make some friends while you’re at it.</p>
<p>been there, done that more or less (I honestly think the main purpose of relationships is to kill your freshman year :/). But everyone’s right that next year is a fresh start, and if you go to a large school you can pretty much recreate your social life by finding a whole new group of friends (I’m not sure I’ll do that but its probably a good option, as some of my friends are ******bags, lol).</p>
<p>Remember - if you show up at meetings of groups that do community service, they will LOVE you. Habitat for Humanity. Feed the Hungry. Anything like that. The more people they have show up, the more work they can get done. Community service groups are a GREAT way go meet people.</p>
<p>If you are the least bit religious, religious groups are a good way to meet friendly, welcoming people too. Hillel, Newman Center, fellowship groups associated with a Protestant denomination…</p>