<p>I have been a freshman at my college for about a week and a half now. you could say that I'm struggling a lot. My roommate is in the color guard, and moved in 10 days before I did, getting a chance to meet a bunch of people and make new friends. When I moved in, she didn't include me in anything she was doing, and most everyone was hanging out with their roommate, so I ended up being alone. I tried to introduce myself, and tried to hang out with people, but I always felt like the third wheel, because it would always be with a pair of roommates. I am feeling so alone at school, because I have made no friends. It has gotten to the point when I am skipping meals because I have no one to eat with. I came home for the weekend, and I am dreading returning to school tomorrow. I just want to know how to make some friends here. I'm not exactly a club type person. I just want to find some friends who I can hang out with and party with on the weekends. I am considering switching dorm halls next semester to try and surround myself with new people (my dorm hall is really quiet). I also might rush for a sorority to join in the spring semester. I just want to wake up and be excited that I'm there.</p>
<p>I hope you have found some people to hang out with in the past few weeks, but if not, don’t despair!
You say you’re “not a club person,” and I’m not quite sure what you mean by that, but there are often groups/activities for all kinds of people, and clubs can be a lot different from in high school. See if your university has a list of student groups and see if anything strikes your fancy.
There are also often different activities around campus like an open mic night or a student comedy troupe performance. Keep an eye out for these sort of informal settings where it’s easy to strike up a conversation with fellow new students.
Classes are also a great place to start. You’re in a class together, so you already have at least one small thing in common. Start up a conversation with someone who sits near you; that’s actually how I met my best friend.</p>
<p>Join a hiking club, a running group, get a job on campus, sit with random people in the cafeteria, especially if they are eating alone also. It may feel weird to you, but trust me, people do it a lot. </p>
<p>I feel your pain - I was placed with 3 grad students my freshman year of college (due to dorm crowding), as an out-of-state student who knew no one. It’s hard, but it gets better.</p>
<p>The BEST idea is to find someone else who is sitting alone at the cafeteria. If you do that enough times, you can get a group going that might be more eclectic and interesting than any other way you would have made friends. </p>
<p>I can tell you that my daughter has been going to grad school where she knew absolutely nobody, and it took about four weeks before she began to feel like she is beginning to make some friends. It takes time. It’s definitely very hard, but looking for those people who are also alone is a great place to start.</p>