<p>I might be losing a friend. She's my only legit friend I have, and she might be transferring next year. Why? Because of her stupid bf. She followed her bf to the same college, and she plans on following him out.</p>
<p>Both my friend and her bf are engineer majors and first years. He is currently far behind, as he dropped and failed some classes last quarter, and now is on academic probation. He rarely studies, plays video games all the time, and despite being having my friend nag at him, he doesn't seem to care.</p>
<p>My friend has a low gpa (she's barely in good academic standing, probably because of her bf). They both have full-rides, but are at a HUGE risk of losing them (must have at least a 2.5 to keep them!)</p>
<p>So yesterday, my friend and I were talking. She mentions that she might transfer because her bf wants to leave the school and become a mechanic. She also says that she doesn't like how the teachers teach (she complained about how the math teachers have a strict certain way of teaching...well duh!), and she has been having problems with her inconsiderate roommate and other residents in her dormitory. </p>
<p>I have a feeling that she is making excuses and that no matter how good her situation is, she'll leave for her bf. I told her repeatedly to leave the quad dorm room (as I did, I was her roommate), and to change her major (as she wants to). I also said that next year, she didn't have to room in the same dorm room, that she could switch. </p>
<p>I keep trying to convince that next year will be better, that she just had a rough start. I also want to convince her that following her bf around is a bad idea (but I haven't stated it yet). Am I wrong for thinking that my friend has lost her mind? Is there any way I convince her that following her bf around is a bad idea? Or am I being selfish?</p>
<p>Well what exactly is her boyfriend gonna do? A certified HVAC mechanic makes a decent amount of cash for not having a degree, probably more than a lot of recent college grads are making. </p>
<p>Why would she need to transfer though? Can’t he find a certification course where they are right now?</p>
<p>Well, from what it sounds like, she says that if he leaves the university, he’ll just go home two hours away and work as a mechanic, and she’ll go with him. I’m sure there are plenty of nearby auto shops and technical schools he could go to, but they would be without a place to stay (or they could find an apartment and she could continue school here). She was pretty vague on the plans though…</p>
<p>But it sounds as though she just wants to follow this guy around. He’s her first serious love and they’ve been together for a couple of years. But still, I think it’s stupid to throw a full-ride away just to follow your unmotivated high school sweet heart around.</p>
<p>Probably not. I know it’s frustrating, but this is one of those times where nothing you say will probably make a difference. She’s going to do what she’s going to do.</p>
<p>She’s an idiot. A full ride scholarship and she is messing around like this? I would move on to friends with a few more braincells and more self-respect.</p>
<p>Manhattan, I wouldn’t say that she is “stupid” because she is a bright girl. I can understand where she is coming from. Her freshman year has been rough, and her boyfriend (all thanks to laziness) is flunking out. She’s been with this guy for two years, and she says that they plan on getting married after graduation. I’m not sure how likely this is, but if she ends up giving up/losing her full-ride scholarship, she is going to feel mighty dumb for it.</p>
<p>Nujabes,</p>
<p>I don’t think that the bf will dump her, but I think she needs to seriously reevaluate the relationship. He’s dragging her down. She spends all her time with him and schoolwork. She hardly does anything outside of their relationship. I hate to talk down to her bf because he is a nice guy, but he needs to get his act together ASAP. With a .9 gpa and a few dropped/failed courses, it is not looking too good.</p>
<p>DC Hurricane,</p>
<p>I don’t she could. She’s very attached to this guy. I wish I could find a way to keep her here, because years from now, she is going to regret dropping a FULL ride scholarship with refunds and all. </p>
<p>HisGraceFillsMe,
Yeah, it is EXTREMELY frustrating. Sheer stupidity even. Giving up a great education and a full-ride for her goofy bf? She has lost her mind!</p>
<p>I get really frustrated with people who make big decision based on their SOs, especially as teenagers. You should sit down with her and really lay it out there about the reasons why she shouldn’t base her life on what her bf is doing. She’ll probably get angry with you, but wth, as a friend you should do it or else she’ll transfer out and you won’t see her again anyway. Does she plan on majoring in engineering at another school? Engineering is tough everywhere, so that won’t change. Or is she gonna be a mechanic as well? It’s a good, high paying job NGL but honestly…Tell her the best decision is to stay on at her current school, switch majors, and get good grades. It’s only freshman year; she has time to step up her game.</p>
<p>It’s a shame when a student like this gets a free ride while others with more ambition, common sense, maturity, and academic success (better than her 2.5 college gpa) struggle financially to attend.</p>
<p>Absolutely NOT. I would never center my life around my SO. I’ve already made plans to study abroad and go to grad school and to not have children before 25. He’s not going to change that (though he seems to be in a rush to have kids asap). I also didn’t meet my bf until a couple months into college, so I didn’t follow anyone anywhere. She, on the other hand, followed her bf to college and seems like she’ll follow him OUT (they’re high school sweethearts). </p>
<p>And I agree with everyone. This is sheer stupidity on her part AND her bf’s. I don’t get it. They both have free rides, and it won’t be long before they lose it if they don’t get their act together. If only I could talk some sense into her.</p>
<p>NYsmile,
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<p>She’s below a 2.5 (barely above a 2.0 which is considered good academic standing). She and her bf are also young (both turned 18 just recently). I don’t get it. I would have killed to have a full ride but I wasn’t “poor enough” to get one! She and her bf are lucky.</p>
<p>Icanread,
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<p>No, she plans on going to school. But still. If she leaves, because of her low gpa, she probably won’t get a full-ride elsewhere if she transfers. All the problems she *****es about are easily fixable. All she has to do is switch majors and ask for a different roommate/dorm space next year and that solves 75% of her problems. </p>
<p>I told her that she should switch majors. If you can’t handle first-year engineering classes, chances are you won’t be able to handle the upper-level courses. With a 2.2, I don’t think that’s going to cut it.</p>