<p>Ok, so I just found out that I am in a triple next year with 2 girls that already know each other and requested to be together ina double, and now I've been put with in a triple. I've tried to make conversation on facebook and such but it seems like I'm getting the bare minimum responses to questions. I don't know anyone else going to my school from my hometown/high school and I'm worried that they're just going to ditch me and I'll be stuck eating dinner alone on the first night and stuff. I don't know...does anyone have any advice on this or did anything similar happen to anyone and how did you deal wiht it? I'm trying to be as friendly as possible and just hope that they're willing to make new friends, but they seem to already know a ton of other people fomr their high school and town coming and it looks liek they'll just leave and go hang out with those people...anyway any advice would be appreciated, thanks in advance:)</p>
<p>Remember, you do not have to be best friends with your roommate(s), you just have to live together. You will be able to reach out to other people on your hall, classes, campus orgs, etc. Dont worry. Your fate does not rest in their hands. All you can ask for/expect is for them to be civil to you and respect your space/stuff. Consider anything beyond that a bonus.</p>
<p>I had an awful time with my freshman roommate. To the point where rooms were switched. I actually considered it a good thing because it got me out of my room and onto the dorm halls where I met lots of people. I also didnt know anyone when I got to school and I have great friends now.</p>
<p>Bare minimal responses? That doesn't sound good. I'd say introduce yourself to hallmates and classmates. Like flgirl said, the roommate situation might not necessarily work out. It WILL feel awkward in the beginning, but once you find your own niche (and you will!) it'll be fine. Besides, likely your freshmen class is the size of your entire high school. It's impossible not to find friends in a crowd that big. =)</p>
<p>you'll have a chance to meet tons of other people from college like in class, organizations, clubs, etc.</p>
<p>Awkward.............</p>
<p>they'll plot together to steal your stuff!</p>
<p>yeah, if you see them secretly talking just walk up to them and stand there. it'll creep them out and they'll worry about you hand cuffing them to their beds while they sleep.</p>
<p>yeah thats awkward</p>
<p>and i just found out my roommate is a sophmore</p>
<p>oh, both? 10char</p>
<p>OMG, I am going to be a freshman a few weeks also, and I am in the exact same situation with two roomates who are really good friends. I'm worried.</p>
<p>First, you don't need to be best friends with your room mates (in fact, it might be better if you weren't!) These girls might be getting along now...but what'd you wanna bet they're not so chummy after sharing a small space together for nine months?!? Also, since they seem to know a lot of people from their high school or whatever, they may not care to branch out much to you, which is probably worse for them because would you really want to be stuck with all those same people from your town/high school?? I know I wouldn't, that's for sure! I'm sure once you get to college there will be plenty of people who, like you, don't know anyone either. You sound like a friendly person and to my estimations if you go into college with that same attitude you'll make plenty of friends! So, don't sweat it! </p>
<p>Good luck to you!</p>
<p>My niece was in a situation similar to yours. Actually, maybe it was even worse...not only was she put in a room with two other girls who were already best friends, a few of the rooms on her floor were occupied by her roommates' friends from high school--they had all purposely signed up for a special -interest residential program to ensure that their little clique could hang together, even though none of them had any intention of participating in the special interest activities.</p>
<p>At the beginning my niece tried very hard to be friendly to her roommates--she actually tried to talk to them point blank about how they were making her feel and how she wanted to be friends with with them-- and she was also friendly to everyone else she met as well.</p>
<p>She figured out pretty quickly that she would not be welcomed in her roomies' circle of friends--but she made friends with a lot of the other people on the floor, in the rest of her dorm, in classes and clubs and at the rec center.</p>
<p>At the beginning she would often leave her room when her roomies and/or their friends made her feel unwelcome or uncomfortable--but as her friends became aware of what was going on they helped her to become more quietly assertive. They would make a point of hanging out in her room, and they didn't automatically leave when the roomies and their clique arrived. Her room actually became quite a social hub for the floor. She also learned to ignore her roomates when they were in the room as they did her-- she'd always say hello, but then study or read or watch tv with her headphones on if the roomies were being particularly obnoxious at the time.</p>
<p>All of this seems rather juvenile and high school-ish but she survived the first semester. Second semester she moved across the hall to room with a friend she had made first semester--that room had also had three girls in it, but they all got along just fine! The other two girls in that room just moved on down the hall to a room vacated by two of the "queen bees" friends who did not return second semester.</p>
<p>Did you consider their lack of response to be that they are a bit mad they didn't get a double? Maybe it's not you, it's the situation? </p>
<p>Anyway good advice from others here. What will be interesting to watch and see if the "friends" remain that way for the year. :) Think of it as an observational study.</p>
<p>dont worry about it cindy! im sure you will make friends wit em if your just yourself!</p>
<p>when you walk into the room just be yourself, unpack, ask em what they're about etc and im sure you'll get on like a house on fire...although...if things dont work out, just start telling one of em the other one is saying stuff about her behind her back...then after there following argument they will probably leave and u'll be left with your own nice spacious room ;)</p>
<p>Thanks for the kind words everyone...Im just starting to make friends with people in my hall beacuse frankly, they can ignore me all they want if that's how they want to be, I was just freaking out about having to eat by myself and such the first couple days. BUt oh well. I just met a girl 3 rooms away in a single room who loved Broadway (I'm a theater major...) so things are looking up:)</p>
<p>cindy013...get involved in some theater clubs (your passion) as soon as possible, and every time you pass someone smile and sincerely say hi. It goes a long way.</p>
<p>You'll be fine. Relax. There are gonna be TONS of newcomers just like you!</p>
<p>Two years ago, my older D found herself in the same situation... her two roomates had requested a double. Imagine my dismay when (D was traveling out of country) one of the roomies called to express her dismay about the triple situation and to see if perhaps my D was actually in a small room on the side of their larger room! D also knew absolutely no one at her University.
The good news is that once at school, they all got along well and became friends. Just keep an open mind and relax. Hopefully, your roomies will do the same.
Be sure to reach out beyond your roomates and get involved in clubs/activities.
Best of Luck!!</p>
<p>My roomies also know each other! They seem like brutes from their myspaces...</p>