<p>My mom: Worked full time for 2 years, until she was 20, after high school. She then went to a vocational school, community college, and a university to receive her bachelors and masters degree. She was 35 when she was done all of her schooling.
My dad: Went to a university out of high school, but dropped out after his freshman year due to lack of motivation. </p>
<p>Now me: I decided that I wanted to finish high school early, so I started taking classes at community college during the spring semester of my junior year. I started my first college class a week before my 17th birthday. I took classes full time during my senior year. The classes I took counted as both high school and college credits. I graduated from high school with my class though.
I was planning on transferring to a university in the spring semester, but tonight my parents(mostly my dad) told me that they want me to stay at community college and get my associates degree. My dad said that he doesn't think I'm ready because I "don't have enough experience with the outside world", but my mom thinks that deep down my dad doesn't want me making the same mistake that he did. But just from the way he was talking, he was acting like I'm too dumb to go to college. He thinks I'm rushing myself. It's almost like he's against people my age to go away to college.
I am motivated to go to a university, and I already have experience with college. All of the universities I'm looking into are no more than an hour away(2 of them are like 45 minutes away so I'll live up there and one is only a half hour away so I'll commute if I go there).
I'm 18 years old, just out of high school, and have 21 college credits.
Do you think them telling me to stay at community college until I get my associates degree is fair?</p>
<p>My older sister told me the opposite. To not go to a CC after high school because the success rate to graduating (at least at our CC) wasn’t high at all. She said it would be difficult to make friends because most people who do CC take the class and go straight home. I know how hard it is to do the dual credit thing. I had 21 credits by the time I graduated also. I think you worked hard enough to take on four year university. So definitely go for it.</p>
<p>I went to CC and transferred without getting an associates because it was a waste of money. I would have had to take a bunch of classes that had nothing to do with my program and would not transfer. If the same is true for you, that may be an argument you can make.</p>
<p>If they are paying for your school, pretty much whatever they say is fair. That’s how it works. My parents didn’t save any money for my schooling, so I had to start with community college. They told me they didn’t bother because they figured I would just drop out anyway. Oh well. I took 60 credits at CC and then transferred. I am no worse for wear. I can understand why you would want to go straight to a university, I did too and was really disappointed when I couldn’t, but it’s not the end of the world. If it’s not your money you really have no ground to stand on in arguing.</p>
<p>Schools start in a few weeks. Have you been accepted at any school? Are you registered? Are the schools that are 1/2- 1 hr away schools that will let you enroll now? IF not, you may have to continue at a CC until you get your transfer applications in.</p>
<p>If you were planning to transfer for Spring of 2011, why not submit your applications and see what happens with acceptances.
Maybe you’ll be offered a scholarship and that might help sway your parents.
If you don’t apply, you might always wonder ‘What if?’</p>
<p>Frankly, with a 2.4-2.8 GPA in a CC, I would want you to finish out there first, too. You would have to prove to me you can do the work self directed, and a 2.4 doesn’t do that in my mind.</p>
<p>I actually have a 2.9 GPA erin’s dad? 2.9 is acceptable because it’s only one point away from a 3.0, and you need a minimum of a 2.0 for all of the colleges I was looking into. In one of the colleges, I don’t even need to send in my high school transcript and SAT scores because I have enough credits.
I just feel that it’s not fair for them to not even give me a reason why I can’t go off to a university because the only thing they said was that they think I’m rushing, which I don’t think I am.
And I don’t think it’s fair that just because my dad didn’t finish college, he has to crush my own college plans because he doesn’t want me to do what he did(which I won’t).</p>
<p>I don’t see the problem here. A 2.9 is about average for people who go to college… I don’t see why an ambitious person like the OP (I say ambitious because most high school kids don’t care about getting things done, like college credits) shouldn’t be allowed to go to a university. Not only is it a better environment for someone who wants to get things done, but it’s also just a matter of getting on with your life without your parents. I know there are some here who sympathize with those kids who can’t get their lives together or can’t seem to take responsibilities when needed, but I don’t think this is one of those cases. I mean… are we expecting her to fail college classes? No… she’s already taken 21 hours worth.</p>
<p>Sounds like your dad feels like you’re like him and thus might make the same decisions he did… clearly you’re not and you’ve proven that already.</p>
<p>It doesn’t matter if everyone on the internet thinks it’s “unfair.” You’re not our child, we’re not footing the bill.</p>
<p>If you want to do things your way, then pay your way. Until then, you have to abide by the rules of the person/people who are making this possible at this point in your life. </p>
<p>You might try focusing on being grateful for this opportunity.</p>
<p>Hadsed, you pretty much hit the nail right on the head!
I feel like I’ve already proved to him that I can do college work. I admit that at first it was quite a struggle, but I mean if your only 17 years old and taking college classes full time, it’s normal to have a little struggle. And I learned from my mistakes and grew from them.
And not only do I have 21 credits(only 15 transferable though), but I’ve been spending my summer taking college classes.</p>
<p>The arguement can go both ways. On one hand, you say you are ready, on the other hand, the grade is not high enough to get in a good school.
Its simple, if you want to go, go, as long as you can convience your parents to support you, or yourself can support the cost. There is no way we can spin the wheels here for you.</p>
<p>^A 2.9 is nothing to brag about. Also, your other thread says that your college transcript states a 2.4GPA but you don’t agree with the way they figured the GPA.</p>
<p>It depends on what school you want to get into. With only 20 some credits, your high school record is going to be important, too. When I transferred I had 60 college credits so my high school record wasn’t considered at most places, and I think most of the schools I was applying to expected a 3.0-3.5 college GPA.</p>
<p>Agree with gwgrad. If a student gets a 2.4 - 2.9 at a CC, a traditional 4 yr college might be awfully hard for them. The goal isn’t just to get into college ( if one will accept a transfer student with those grades), it is to stay in school, successfully graduate from said 4 yr college and be gainfully employed.</p>
<p>Everyone on this thread needs to stop assuming because assuming makes an ass out of you and me. I’m not looking to get into the freaking ivy leagues or colleges like Boston college(which do require a 3.0 or higher), etc. No. I’m looking into one public state school and 2 private schools that have the acceptance rate of between 66% and 73%. </p>
<p>For the in state public school(which is my first choice), on the website for transfer students it says that the average GPA that students transfer with is a 3.0. But, if you have at least 15 transferable credits you don’t need to send in your high school transcript or SAT scores. I have 15 now and I’ll have 18 when I apply next month because I am currently taking a summer session class.
And, my cousin goes to this college and she told me just last weekend that she knows people that have transferred with between a 2.6 GPA and a 2.8 GPA.
I am hoping to get an A in my summer class, and the A will bring me up to a 2.9 GPA, which is only one point lower than a 3.0. </p>
<p>And high school stuff is important, but your college transcript and essay will take the most priority over your high school stuff. If you did not do well in high school, but you showed improvement in college, that’s good. It’s definitely not looked down upon. </p>
<p>I’m also going to be writing an essay, and my strongest subject in school has always been in writing. </p>
<p>So stop assuming that a 2.9 is bad, because it’s only one point away from a 3.0. And stop assuming that I’m looking into all ivy league and prestigious schools. Not everyone on this board goes to ivy leagues you know. </p>
<p>And gwgrad, who said I only have a 2.0? Find me that post. Because I do not have a 2.0.
If you all think a 2.9 is bad, then you might as well say that no one you know has transferred with a 2.9 GPA before. SAY IT.</p>