<p>Well said collegebound91. I couldn’t have said it any better. </p>
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<p>You know, peter_parker, it’s not as black and white as you put it. I think you are being insensitive to the fact that culturally, he is a Pakistani. In Indian and Pakistani societies, we don’t think of this as “It is my life and I will live the way I want to”. Families play a huge part in who we are and the decisions we make in our lives. That doesn’t necessarily mean that we are oppressed or controlled by our parents and can’t live how we want to. Yes, I want to live life my way, but if that means I have to disappoint my parents to get what I want, I will not do it. </p>
<p>To NuclearPakistan - dude, you should just wait until you are out of college to discuss anything marriage related. Conservative south asian parents think that if you are dating someone at the moment, it means you guys are very serious and would consider marriage. However, that isn’t the case as many people our age just want to date to see what’s “out there”, and parents won’t get that. For the moment, don’t tell them anything about this girl as your parents will be very disappointed. As someone else said, when you’re older and can live independently, you can tell them about her (provided that you’re still dating) and hopefully they’ll understand. I don’t think that any parent would stop you from marrying her if you really want - it will just take some convincing. :)</p>
<p>Oh, and people here have NO idea about arranged marriages. It’s not like you’re being introduced to some guy/girl in your family friend’s circle and then being forced to marry them. It’s NOT coercion or a “violation of human rights”. That happens in rural villages or small towns where people are generally poorer. Most arranged marriages today are kinda like where your parents just introduce you to a girl/guy, either through family gatherings, parties, weddings, etc - and then it is up to you to decide if you want to pursue anything with that person. You have the freedom of choice to chose your own partner.</p>
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<p>That could be a problem! Especially if she’s Hindu and you’re a Muslim.</p>