<p>Ha-hang on a sec! I just read you’re other stuff and you ARE muslim! Hey! Smoking & pre-marital relationship is a no-no for us guys. For smoking, it ways in the Quran:
‘We (God) do not love those who harm themselves for pleasure.’
This is interpreted as Emo slice-wrist sort of stuf, AND stuff like alchohol, drugs, and in effect, smoking. Why do you think we don’t drink alcohol? Smoking is just a regular drug but we’d have economical problems in these countries if it was gotten rid of.
Pre-marital stuff: Not allowed. Do your parents know you were in a relationship like that? Were you aware of this? Rules in our religion are not for picking and choosing; they have been given to us. Since you’re getting married (assumingly) and if you only just found this out (which is kinda stupid, no offense, really) you can just repent. We may live in the West, or, even more, since there are many children of converts out there, we may be western, but we’re still muslim. Where we live DOESN’T change who we are, and what we know about God and the Universe.
(plus, to the guy who said we could have 4 wives earlier, we can, but we believe God doesn’t like it but we can do it if there are complications. See, we ARE flexible XD)(also, Ilovetoquilt, don’t be racist. Arranged can mean a lot of things. In some places, yeah, they did used to oppress. Hell, they do in some even fewer ones… But it is and was very rare, especially in Islamic lands (when they were Islamic). We don’t oppress woman, contrary to popular belief. Oh yeah, and getting disowned and not caring is like ur parents chucking you. Not nice. Big neglect of love.))
Oh yeah you said you may not want to marry her, if so you shouldn’t be dating her bc there isn’t even an intention to marry. Not that you should be dating if there was. Since you don’t wnt to marry her, don’t. If you don’t like the arranged chick, don’t. Wait till you find someone you connect with to the extent you want to marry. Be aware though: Usually with women who fall in love with you and vice versa very quick and VERY deeply the love extinguishes quick, too. That’s why sometimes you should talk a bit more to them woen people think you’re compatible with. If you don’t like them after all that then you’re parents and theirs were obviously WRONG, innit?
Right, assuming you get married to ur gf:
She’s Christian so the marriage is religiously accepted & allowed, but life will be so much easier if she sees the truth. Members of all the Abrahamic religions go to heaven according to Islam, but further enlightenment grants higher rewards. It’s like being born and being given an option of being blind, having to wear glasses, or see crystal clear. What’s the obvious choice?
Personally, I’d really want the one I love to be close to God.
Also, She’s probably not a very religious Christian if she’ll let you raise the kids muslim without her influencing them. You’ll probably find, like I do with a lot of scenarios, that she’ll go buy haram stuff when you leave temporarily. Happens a lot. Also, only having one person teaching you religion is much harder to live with. You NEED another person to guide you, to fortify your belief in its early stages.
Ok, I’ll leave you there. Try to think about what I’ve said… And If anything I said offended you or put you off, please tell me. I hate it when I do something like that by accident.</p>