<p>An alternative to the military and ROTC (because one can be philosophically opposed to the military and it may be too much of a culture shock if you’re a religious Muslim or Jewish girl from an observant, traditional, immigrant family) is a year of volunteer service such as CityYear. [City</a> Year: give a year. change the world.](<a href=“http://www.cityyear.org/home-WhatWeDo.aspx]City”>http://www.cityyear.org/home-WhatWeDo.aspx)
It’s well-considered by colleges and it earns you money toward college if you complete the full year. And Zakat is very important so it wouldn’t be looked down upon by an aobservant, traditional family. 
After college, the student will be considered independent, and she could find a job far away or participate in a prestigious program such as Teach for America that guarantees she’ll be in another State for 2 years, earning money, and on her way to a great job or grad school.
The key point for Migraine is to get into college somewhere.
Migraine, would you have the stats for Truman State’s academic scholarships? It’s in a rural area and it’s rather conservative.
Would your father help you investigate women’s colleges - perhaps if you get him onboard it’ll be possible for him to envision you there and he’ll convince your mother? Perhaps you can contact the (your religion) Student Association there and email to ask for a male or female (depending on what you think will be best) to talk with you and your father about attending. Make aspects of your situation clear in your first communication so that they understand the key person to convince will be your father who doesn’t want you to go away for college. Issues such as losing one’s faith, behavior, safety, weekend activities, seriousness of purpose among the student body… are likely to be prominent, aren’t they?</p>