<p>As long as I pass, my parents are happy. It's probably because they have had a history of work-obssesed parents who did not give them a chance to accelerate educationally. I get more upset over a B then they do because I am trying to keep at least a 3.9/4.0.</p>
<p>my parents never ask me/care about my homework, tests, projects or anything but when my report card comes, they want to see A's</p>
<p>My parents are similar to yours, 13lueflame. However, they do ask, but only sometimes.</p>
<p>My parents are pretty cool i guess, I mean they want A's from me and I want A's so I don't really get upset or mad when they tell me I need to get an A!! They do ask me about homework and tests etc..but I think it is very helpful</p>
<p>well I work really hard to get an A and really want to get an A, but sometimes I don't!!! I'm not superhuman!</p>
<p>Well, get out of the house and find a life. Seriously, you can do one of two things: Meet their standards (which can be impossible) or not. </p>
<p>If you can't meet their standards, stop trying. Because you can't. Meet your standards. </p>
<p>Parent survival techniques:
Force them to give you their expectations, and the punishments for not failing to meet these expectations. Understand their standards. Without this knowledge, you can't make decent decisions.</p>
<p>Decide whether or not it is worth it to meet these expectations. If you think the expectations are reasonable, and often they are, (or if the punishments are serious enough) you should meet them, and everyone's happy. </p>
<p>If it's not worth it (because it's too much work for too little gain, you hate it, etc) or you just can't do it, you have to talk to your parents and explain that you can't do this. This is impossible. At some point, you need to sit down and tell them they expect too much of you. </p>
<p>Your parents should hold slightly better expectations of you than you do yourself (unless you've been really screwing up). Tell your parents ahead of time that you will likely not meet their standards. Tell your parents the reasons why. If the expectations are so high that it causes you major stress, then you simply need to choose not to meet them, no matter the consequences, and get into an argument about it. </p>
<p>Remember, your parents cannot force you to do anything you cannot or should not do. Your parents should force you to do things you don't want to do, but if they have unrealistic expectations, you can't try to meet them, you have to get them to lower them by any means necessary.</p>
<p>The divide and conquer strategy is also very effective. If only one parent has insanely high standards, meet the other parent alone and explain your POV. Choose the parent that listens more and has more realistic expectations, and work on that parent alone. As long as your parents listen to each other, this is very, very effective.</p>
<p>This will pass with time. Work to your own standards, but don't short-change yourself. You can get all A's. And have a life, etc, if you do it for yourself, not your parents.</p>
<p>yeah its hard being an asian especially having asian parents. my dad demands 100% or else i cant show him nething. even 99.9% is unacceptable. they only put pressure on u because they want u to reach ur full potential. they just want u to be the best of the best and they wanna be proud of those high accomplishments. my parents want me to have straight A's, a GPA of 4.0+ and a 2400 on the SAT.... its nuts but they understand perfection isnt always attainable. jsut tell ur parents that u have been trying really hard and maybe ur strengths arent in all subjects and that thats fine.</p>
<p>OMG post # 28. Simply OMG.</p>
<p>haha chicken... your so funny! Heres a conversation I once had with my mom over aim with my mom (she was in NY, I was living alone in CT)</p>
<p>(in regards to the B I had in Calc)
Me: I am trying my best mom...
Mom: Ok, but that is not good enough.</p>
<p>Some parents just want to keep on pushing and pushing.... In all honesty, there really isnt anything you can do. I use to go to my school councilor because of the stress that my mom gave me... I gave honest retellings of what my mom said to me and expected (not only with grades but with the multiple responsibilities I have [I wont even get into them in detail, just trust me it was a lot]), and her only response was... </p>
<p>"Nothing will actually be good enough though. Dont get yourself down because of what she says.. no matter what you do, no matter how much you accomplish, with her personality, I can tell its never good enough. You have to just try your best, and when she is yelling or getting mad, just know there was nothing you could do about it."</p>
<p>So mate, just do the best you can with all your homework, all your test, study your ass off. And if your parents are mad, so be it. If they decide to take away your tv, take away time away from friends, ground you.. just go on with it, life isnt always fair. The best thing to know is you did the best that you could do for yourself, knowing that when it comes time to picking colleges, you will get in to your college of choice not because of your parents nagging you, but because you gave it your all.</p>
<p>my mom said it's alright if i didn't get a 4.0, (asian mom) but if i didn't i wouldn't get any help buying luxuries like videogames or clothes. that also included a car.</p>
<p>i lost my 4.0 in sophmore year, so now i have to pay everything i want myself, and am carless indefinitely.</p>
<p>people talk about how parents somehow get "softer," but mine haven't, despite countless hours of arguing and cold shouldering.
im sorry OP, but if arguing and talking doesn't work, there usually is nothing yo ucan do until you go to college.</p>
<p>im actually rly happy...my parents are pretty sure im going to get into yale so they no longer are acting very asian. it's a little scary haha</p>
<p>OP: Your parents are losers, sorry.</p>
<p>My parents never have said anything, and I have a 4.0. Hell, they're damn Mexicans lol (like me :P)</p>
<p>What does being mexican have to do with anything?</p>
<p>What mexicans are always checking stuff??? </p>
<p>Thats pretty bold of you to say.</p>
<p>My point is that my parents don't care if I get a B, but, I care. It is my responsibility to strive for the best. (4.0 in this case). Quit complaining, and get straight A's because you want to, not because they tell you to.</p>
<p>^^^ Easy for you to say without the pressure. Even if (we) want to get good grades, it's always overshadowed by our parents pressuring us to do the same. And when we do get the grades, we don't get hte credit.</p>
<p>your parents are crazy</p>
<p>The pressure I set upon myself is no different than the pressure from Asian parents. I'm independent, I don't report my progress to anyone.</p>
<p>my parents are quite nice. My dad was MechE out of MIT then got his MS in MechE (dynamics) from Stanford. His only B in high school was from his speech teacher. He just wants me to try my best and if it is a B, so be it as long as I put in the effort. He is only ****ed if I'm not trying.</p>
<p>AWESOME PARENTS. I seriously would like to have strict demanding parents like that.</p>