<p>My roommate and I are polar opposites. I'm pretty chill, I get my stuff done, I go to parties on occasion but I don't get <em>that</em> drunk, etc. HE on the other hand never goes to class, starts drinking on Tuesday nights and is THE most disrespectful roommate ever.</p>
<p>Also, I've tried to switch roommates THREE times and the request keeps getting denied.</p>
<p>Last night I asked him if he could keep it down for the night because I had 2 midterms this morning and I needed to get some sleep and do some studying. He was really ticked off but he agreed to keep our room under control. (which it never is.. it's THE party room on our floor)
I went to bed at about 12:30, tired as hell, and no less than 30 seconds after my head hit the pillow our door came barreling open and masses of people were filing into the room. They were all screaming and howling and **** and one kid was smoking. I didnt see my roommate. (there were ~30 people in the tiny room, and I'm on the top bunk)
I sat up and all the girls were saying Hi and asking why I was in bed and all and then my roommate came in with a 12-pack and noticed me and he lost it.. yelling at me "WHAT THE **** ARE YOU DOING IN HERE, I <strong><em>ING TOLD YOU TO GET THE *</em></strong> OUT.. IF YOU DONT LEAVE IM GONNA BEAT YOUR ASS FAGGOT". I laughed and all the girls were leaving and all his friends started gaining up on me like "yeah man if you're gonna sleep just get the *** out." I said that it's my room too and that i'm not bothering anyone and one of his friends was like "uhhh, it's OUR room now, not yours." I told my roommate he said I could have the room and he was obviously too drunk to remember. He told me to get down from my bed because he wanted to fight but I didn't.. so he started yanking my sheets off my bed and when I tried to slide off the bed he yanked the sheet I was sitting on and I fell, hitting my head on the bedpost and mid-fall scraping my back on the corner of the mini-fridge. Which really, really hurt. He started kicking me but two girls held him back. I stood up and he started coming at me but I pushed him back (he's 6'4 and buff and I'm 5'10 and a runner so I have no chance) so he came back and nailed me in the lower forehead (near black eye at the moment) and he got in my face and whispered that it's Homecoming and that it's his biggest chance of the semester to have the party of the year and that I'm not invited and that if I wasn't out of the room in 2 minutes that he'd **** me up. Mid-whisper I tried going at him but his friends were holding both of our backs. I didnt WANT to stay at this point, so his friends guided me to the door, pushed me into the hall, and shut the door. I hd my key but was so done with this **** so I went to my friend's dorm and didn't get any sleep.</p>
<p>I came back this morning to puke all over his bed, empty Coors Light cans all over MY desk and his, and pizza on my bed. He's tailgating right now and I haven't seen him since.</p>
<p>What do I do? I have no clue when I'll see him next and when I do I have no idea what's gonna happen. I wanna talk to the RA, but then to a HUGE group of people I become the "tattle tail" which is worse than having the crappy roommate.</p>
<p>And how do I explain a black eye to my parents who are coming to visit next weekend?</p>
<p>YOU NEED TO SPEAK TO YOUR RA; you’re not being a tattle-tale, you are paying for that room so it is your space also - if your roommate can’t handle that, then too bad for him. Go directly to the housing office and explain to them personally that you need a new roommate. If your roommate has a friend willing to put up with him, then make him switch with you.</p>
<p>About that black eye, how about a little make-up?</p>
<p>I can’t tell if this is a joke because it sounds so extreme and immature (both you and your roommate). I couldn’t deal with any of that crap if a roommate did that to me: fighting me, kicking me out of the room, etc.</p>
<p>Are you requesting in person or online? You need to ask to meet directly with the person in charge of housing and tell them everything that you stated here. And yeah, tell your parents that you got a black eye from the roommate. Tell your RA so that it shows how serious the situation is. Who cares if you are being a tattle tale. You’re not. You are trying to make your situation comfortable. You pay for living there. You shouldn’t have to live in such conditions.</p>
<p>You need to get out of there NOW. In the meantime, hide some of your valuables or personal property because the roommate might try to damage it since you did it to him.</p>
<p>You need to talk to the highest person with the most authority (housing director, or w/e the position is). TBH, I think you should file a police report on your roommate. Your roommate sounds impulsive and volatile. What happened is unacceptable. The fact that things led to a situation like this is also unacceptable. </p>
<p>Regardless of what happened, you have every right to report the situation and try to get a roommate switch.</p>
<p>Crouch next to your door with a baseball bat and wait for him to come back. When he does, aim low, preferably knees and just come on to er aha. </p>
<p>But seriously don’t listen to the ppl telling you to file a police report lol, that is not gonna help anything.You guys got in a fight, obviously they will allow you to switch rooms now. Until then ignore him, tell him to **** off a few times, tell him he’s a joke and go on with your day. Basically let em know you think nothing of him and he’s not going to bother you anymore. That’s what I’d do anyway. Going to the cops is just ill informed lol.</p>
<p>clearly the op tried to ignore the roommate/roommates friends.</p>
<p>Where did that get him? Oh right. Thrown off the bed, head injury, kicked, and a black eye.</p>
<p>That’s more than grounds for a police report (even if it’s just your campus police). You should never be forced to be in a living situation where your physical well-being is threatened.</p>
<p>Yep; file a police report, inform the RA, AND contact the university security/police. If you don’t it will get worse. And dont put it off… do it right now.</p>
<p>Also if youre worried about being a “tattle tail”… well guess what, youre an adult and the tattle tail stuff is for 5th graders. If you dont report it then you become the push over and you will receive more abuse; I guarantee it. If you do report it you become the guy who doesn’t take [expletive] from other people and they wont mess with you.</p>
<p>If you inform your RA and file a report, it will probably be enough reason to get a new roommate right away. Or if you don’t want a report filed, at least have your parents contact the university. I worked in Housing once and we switched rooms right away if there was any instance of fighting/actual harassment.</p>
<p>Getting the police involved is not gonna help. I’m tellin ya. Deal with it yourself, make em feel bad, make everyone hate him. Have some pride dude screw the police.</p>
<p>You need to get away from this roommate as soon as possible, and since he used violence against you, you definitely should contact the police and file a report against him. Also report him to the highest housing administrative official you can, and to your RA of course. Again, the longer you live with this guy the more consequences you’ll have to suffer. Get this sorted out ASAP.</p>
<p>Tattle-talers are annoying because they turn a non-issue into a real problem. However, when the issue is directly affecting you, you’re not a tattle-tale. Also, I have an honest question: would you rather have this or no friends? (In actuality, it’s more complicated, since there will be people (like me) who share your academic values and will respect you if you turned your roommate in).</p>
<p>If I were you, here’s what I would have done:</p>
<p>1.) The minute he yanks off the sheets and attacks me, that’s a 911 call. People can be jerks, but the minute they start physically attacking you, it goes further than the RA, RD, or school authorities. Your roommate should be in jail, not partying in your room.</p>
<p>2.) Even without the physical assault, if the uninvited people don’t leave, it’s time to get the RA/RD involved in kicking them out. If they don’t leave when asked to, the police should have been called to arrest them for trespassing.</p>
<p>How you handled the situation is good for cases such as a once-in-a-month sexiling when you don’t have anything to do the next day, but this is arguably 100x more serious.</p>
<p>Yes, do file a police report, and document everything. The evidence probably isn’t there anymore, and there will probably be no immediate effect, but things like this better be documented for the future.</p>
<p>So you get the police involved. Yes they put an end to the situation at least temporarily but they also make this guy and his friends even more angry towards you, the police will not make these guys think what they did was wrong. If you go on with your life, ignore the guy, make him feel guilty, act as if you don’t care about him, and then leave when your room is changed you’re good to go. If you get the cops involved it becomes a big production and this guy and his friends will hate you even more, not to mention it’ll take up your time. </p>
<p>It’s no secret there’s a lot of nerds on this forum. Nerds have no street sense, in these situations they think logically according to rules, rights and laws. Do not listen to the people that tell you to file charges when you get punched in the face or whatever, the cops aren’t going to do anything beneficial for you given a minor assault on an isolated occasion. You’re just worsening the situation. And people, outside of these nerds, won’t see it as a respectable thing to do. The respectable thing to do would be to handle it yourself. </p>
<p>Now if he roughs you up everyday, that’s a different story.</p>