I moved into a studio with my friend’s brother because she told me that he was a good/responsible guy.
About two weeks after living together, I started to see that he was more talk than anything else.
Prior to our move in date, he complained about how his previous roommates were really messy, did not take showers, and skipped class all the time, but as of now, that “previous” roommate appears to have been him.
He does not properly clean up after himself (especially in the kitchen), leaves his hair all over the sink (he cuts his own hair), does not flush, and literally sleeps all day.
I have called him out on his behavior about 2-3 times, and it seems to go in one ear and out the other. He always has an excuse for why things turn out the way that they do. “Oh, well I guess that’s life. I’m depressed. I’m sick. I’m just in a slump, I’ll be fine.”
He literally sleeps for almost 15-20 hours at a time (I AM NOT EXAGGERATING).
He will wake up for about 30 minutes to eat and will jump right back in bed. The worst part about all of this is that he is really loud in the morning when I am trying to sleep. I study until at least 2-3AM everyday and he will wake up at the most random times, slamming cabinets, frying food at like 7AM, and walking in and out of the front door.
He skipped class for a good 3 weeks then had the audacity to ask me for notes because he had no idea what to do on the take home final. My ignorant self provided those notes for him, but I’m done. No help on the final, final essay, or anything of that nature.
He might actually be depressed…in which case it’s not totally under his control.
I agree with @bodangles - this doesn’t sound like typically messy college kid behavior. His behavior seems debilitating.
As the others have said, this does not sound like typical “messy college kid” behavior. I know, because I myself am a messy college kid, but nowhere near to that level. It sounds like depression or some type of issue may be at fault here, rather than simple laziness.
I agree… that kind of sleep pattern is NOT typical.
For what it’s worth, though, in my book frying eggs at 7 am is a whole lot more reasonable than having lights on to study at 3pm (and that was true even when I was in college.)
You have, what?, 2 months left of school? Bide your time and find a new roommate for next year.
And consider letting your friend know that you’re concerned about her brother. Perhaps he has a history of depression that his family should be aware of. If it annoys him, so be it.
Yes, that’s a very good point. Frying eggs at 7 am is far more normal than being awake studying at 3 am. Maybe you’re the weird one. :stuckouttonguewinkingeye:
I agree that he sounds depressed. You have half a semester left…I would just deal with the cleaning myself and tallk to him about being noisy in the morning. Also try to study more during the day so you are not up at 2am.