<p>So, I first want to say that I am not ignorant of the fact that a lot of socialization in college revolves around alcohol. I am a college professor myself, and while we do not approve of alcohol in large quantities (I have maybe a few beers every couple of months while my wife has never drank in her life), we are not so blind to think that our DS does not at least dabble in it. We have a fairly good relationship with DS, and do know he has messed around with weed here and there, and he has said that he has at least had alcohol. We both try to stay out of his life, as we know that he is a smart kid that knows the danger involved (my wife is a social worker that works with a certain demographic that is likely to abuse alcohol, and both of us have talked about the dangers with him.</p>
<p>So, this weekend, on his weekly call he mentions that he is seriously considering rushing a frat next semester. We were pretty much blindsided by this, he has never expressed any interest in this before and he does not go to a very greek-heavy school. Apparently his friend is currently pledging (whatever that means) at this frat, and through this friend DS apparently has met a lot of the brothers and other pledges. </p>
<p>I guess I was just looking for some advice from parents who might have a bit more experience with frats. I never had any interest in frats when I went to school (way back when), but my experiences I did have (parties, just meeting people) were mostly negative- a bunch of overly social exclusive rich kids- and I just don't think that is my son at all. He is a quiet, smart kid who grew up in a rougher part of town, we are not poor (we are actually fairly well off), but that is not because of us being privileged, but rather because we have always been frugal and hardworking. </p>
<p>So, what were your experiences with fraternities? Any advice you can give us as parents? Should we encourage DS to not rush and possibly lose that opportunity (according to him, since he is a sophomore now it would be hard for him to rush next year)?</p>
<p>Some other info that might be useful:</p>
<p>-He has a 3.4 GPA, which has risen each semester so far</p>