I know it’s highly fashionable on CC to claim that only a chump takes out loans for college, and OP, you may have good reason to be adverse to loans, but let me give you a fact which gets lost here with the whole “No Loans Ever” crowd, or “only an idiot pays for college” crowd.
Tens of thousands of young people are making loan payments every single month. Faithfully. Never missing a payment, and many of them paying their loans off early.
My nephew- high need, got good need based aid but needed loans as well- paid everything off early. He lived like a grad student after college (even though he wasn’t one), learned to cook so had friends over for chili and beer instead of restaurants and bars, used public transportation (still doesn’t own a car), and lived with roommates. Got a good job, took every raise and basically plowed it back into accelerating his loan payback.
Doesn’t regret a thing.
Another family member- had an employer pay for her grad school (which really helped) so she could advance professionally without having to quit her job in order to get an advanced degree. Lived modestly (once she started grad school didn’t have time for fancy shopping or an expensive social life) and paid her undergrad loans off in record time.
All the blather demonizing loans ignores the fact that for a kid who doesn’t come from an affluent family, sometimes (not always but sometimes) taking out the federal portion of the loans (not the parent plus loans) is the difference between community college and a comprehensive university education. Nothing wrong with community college btw. But an academically talented kid who can’t swing the 5K needed to make Freshman year a reality even after all the merit offers and all the need based offers are in- if that kid is serious about academics, I wouldn’t rule out loans.
I borrowed for grad school (different time, but much higher interest rates) and I tripled my salary after grad school from what I had been earning with my BA. Every time a friend told me she was planning to leave the workforce after having kids that little voice in my head said “you’ve got loans to pay back”. Every time someone at work told me about a fantastic ski weekend or a beach house rental in Aruba and did I want to go, that little voice said, “you’ve got loans to pay back”.
And pay them back I did. And the day I was done, I opened college accounts for the baby and toddler that I had and kept making my “payments”.
Only you and your D can decide the right college experience for her. But if it’s a U which will open the world for her- but with moderate loans which she’ll need to plan for- vs. el cheapo college which has three majors including early childhood ed and other low paying professions, you may decide that it’s worth borrowing. And have a plan to teach her to cook! It is amazing how much kids in their 20s spend on restaurant and takeout food!!! And they don’t know how to brew a pot of coffee- quite an expensive little habit that one.