@drjmom I have been following this thread with interest because there was some pressure on my daughter to apply to Ivies because she had the stats to get her application read. She ultimately didn’t apply to any, but even after application deadlines had passed, there was still second guessing on the part of friends and relatives if she should have been more ambitious. I’m still not clear on the motive - ego boost by association, perhaps?
Regarding those top schools, D is not an urban kid so dense city environments were a non-starter. That knocked out a number of options (Columbia, Harvard, Yale, Chicago). She is emphatically not a party/Greek life personality (Dartmouth). She liked Princeton fine and she really, really liked Brown. Had we visited Cornell, I suspect she might have found it too large.
My suggestion is that 1) your daughter not paint Ivies with a broad brush - she just might find one that she likes as they are quite diverse. 2) after doing due diligence, if she’s still not interested, respect her preference and move on to schools that attract her interest. There are so many to choose from.
She sounds very accomplished and I’m sure she’ll end up someplace great.