<p>Oldfort, I feel lucky, too, that ex-bf finally seems to have moved on. I think attempts at communication have now ceased, but his MO used to be to leave her alone for a few days, initiate contact, pleasant at first but becoming increasingly more contentious. D often rose to the bait. The relationship had been long and serious, and she had plenty of residual feelings. I don’t know how/why he decided to give up on her. I know they had a conversation. I also know first semester was really rough because of him.</p>
<p>ordinarylives - it was a summer fling. D1 stopped going out with him because he was just not a nice person. His MO was also to be very nice to D1 for few days with texts, and when she didn’t respond, he would get nasty. There were few times when she came into our room late at night because she was so upset. He was older and did try to contact D1 when she returned to school. I did call the school to remove her information from the directory. A very nice CCer PMed me about what to do because her daughter was stalked by her ex-BF for many years.</p>
<p>Ugh-- feel badly for your son. I grew up in a big family-- my parents mantra was-- “there must be something wrong with that person if they are gossiping, bullying etc.”</p>
<p>Feel empathy ( for what a jerk that person is) & it makes you feel stonger-- then maybe your son can take the high road, lots of loud, clear “Hi Joe! s” but keep walking, give the kid nothing more. I also say there are times when he should call a spade a spade-- “Hey Joe what are you staring at?” but don’t wait for a response. Then take him off guard with another friendly “Hi Joe”</p>
<p>He also needs to share with a few trusted buddies that Joe is incredibly annoying so please don’t give him the time of day- until he (Joe) chills out. (Hey Joe your tactics will not work…) </p>
<p>It sounds like Joe is envious & screaming for attention for your son. Incredibly insecure – & now that your son publicly ditched him by moving out he is reorting to childish tactics - thank goodness that’s all what they are right now.
Hope your son can keep his distance & persevere without too much worry.</p>
<p>It sounds as if your son has done everything right so far. I agree with the advice of keeping a log of what is happening, dates included.</p>
<p>Not sure how good a 19 year old is about keeping a log but it sounds like that is a smart idea and I will tell my son to try to remember to do so.</p>