Congratulations on your hard work and success!
You are a great candidate for college. An overwhelming % of schools would consider you a very strong candidate. AND most of the schools on your list are reaches. Why? Nothing to do with you, really, you could succeed at all of them. It’s supply and demand. Two examples: Georgia Tech probably would have been a match for you 6-8 years ago, but it’s seen a tremendous leap in applications, so now it’s much more selective. Also, we visited a top LAC a few years ago. They said 70% of applicants were fully qualified, and the school thought they would succeed academically and otherwise there. It accepted 14% at the time. So 4 in 5 fully qualified applicants were not accepted. So it’s not a knock at all to say that these would be a reach for you. That is true of almost every single unhooked applicant (i.e. a recruited athlete).
The great news? You can certainly take a crack at these schools. You are certainly a reasonable candidate. But you’ll also want some matches and safeties. These are very often not inferior schools. They just don’t get the insane number of applications as an MIT, Yale, Stanford, etc. I’d contend academics at a Holy Cross or William and Mary or lots of other schools are really just as good, a few more specialized fields excepted.
Some others that might be more in the match range would include, as mentioned above, Purdue, Union, and RIT. RPI and Case Western Reserve University (CWRU, “Crew”) too. I love CWRU–great engineering school in a nice area of Cleveland, an underrated city. My favorite STEM school, though, is Worcester Polytechnic Institute (WPI). It has a very hands-on, project-oriented approach, if that appeals. Beautiful campus, nice part of Worcester, great students, very high starting salaries, etc. You fit the profile well–the bulk of students would have stats similar to yours. It does give some decent merit money. And CWRU definitely does. This is not safety engineering, but shows the type of programs WPI has.
https://www.wpi.edu/academics/departments/fire-protection-engineering
You are a very strong student and seem to have financial resources. You’ll do great. Just look at it as a matter of exploring for a great school that’s a great fit, understanding that MIT, etc. are very hard for almost everyone. Take a shot of them, that’s reasonable. Trust that there are other really great places out there with great students, faculty, and staff, like VT and Purdue and WPI. I know a recent Purdue grad who came out of one of those 3 schools making well over $100k with unbelievable perks. (They are very smart AND tech savvy AND business savvy.)
Have fun with the process. And enjoy high school as high school. You have the gift of youth, enjoy that.
Good luck!