<p>iam a freshman in college my second sm. and i just dont wont to stay here anymore. i dont like being here an my parnets havent really paid for my whole year yet, so i figure if i leave now it wouldnt hurt, plus i can see how muc this is deeping their debit. i just want to go home, im not home sick i just cant stand this school anymore. i feel lost, sad, depressed, and angry when im here. And my parents wont let me come home so now i really hate being here i dont really have any friends cause they got into a fight when we left 4 christmas break...so i just need so help or advice on how to get through this diffucult year alone</p>
<p>First things first, go make up with your friends, say you’re sorry, whatever. If it’s something not easy to fix, you still don’t need to go through the year alone, try finding some new friends.</p>
<p>What is it you don’t like about school? Are you bored? Are classes too hard? Have you tried taking courses that relate to things you actually enjoy? Are you lonely? It’s a bit hard to give advice without knowing what (generally) is bothering you.</p>
<p>If you feel that way, then it might not be a bad idea to look into schools to transfer to. It’s no use being at a place that you hate, you won’t enjoy yourself and you’ll likely struggle academically. </p>
<p>What you should do to make this semester tolerable is to make up with your friends. Don’t avoid them, you should talk to them about what happened. You don’t have to do things alone. There are plenty of people involved in clubs and likely in your dorm you can meet. I had an issue with some of my friends and roommates my freshman year, and talking to them is the best advice I can offer. You might not be as good of friends as you were, but it will help. </p>
<p>If all else fails, you can become “friends” with some of your professors - go to their office hours, and you can start off with stuff about your classes. Those relationships become really important in the future if you plan on going to grad school, too.</p>
<p>im bored with the school, they dont really have activties here and there is nothing around my school off campus to do either unless u have a car or know sum1 with a car, which is whyi think i willjust transfer to another school.</p>
<p>First off, I’m sorry about whats going on.
I don’t know if you did any research about starting over in a brand new college life, but it is not easy. You are not alone however. A lot of first year students develop a depression because of the new environment and adjustments to the college life.</p>
<p>Regarding the fight with your friends, make up with them. It’s bad energy and you really shouldn’t add that onto your already large pile of stress as a first year student.</p>
<p>COLLEGE IS STRESSFUL. That is the important thing to acknowledge. </p>
<p>I had suffered greatly from a depression my first semester of college. Winter break helped because I took the time to focus on myself and adjust my attitude towards life little by little and before I knew it, I started to see the changes in my level of self esteem. </p>
<p>FOR YOUR SITUATION: All college campuses have some sort of counselor/psychiatrist/psychologist that you can talk these things out with. If you research your campus, there should even be a number you may call to schedule an appointment. I wrote that number down in case of emergencies for myself in case I a breakdown myself.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, since you are a first year, students may not transfer until usually their second year (I go to the university in CA). You should see a counselor to gain this kind of advice on your situation. You should tell them whats going on and ask them “what should I do?”. That is what they’re there for, to help you out on these types of situations! That is their JOB. If you are unsatisfied with their answer then tell them. The trouble with most first years, is that you are afraid of talking about these kinds of things. DO NOT FEAR YOUR COUNSELOR. Their goal is to help YOU. I talked these kinds of situations out with my counselor and gained a great friend and person to seek for help. He actually told me at one point to skip an entire day of classes because he saw that I was so stressed out. Don’t be afraid to tell them what’s going on.
Best of luck to you.</p>
<p>Make up with your friends and/or make new friends.
Talk to guidance counselors.</p>
<p>There MUST be some activity, club, etc, at your new school that you could do to meet people and work off some stress. Does your school have a gym or pool? Go workout, swim, whatever so that you can get some exercise and let the endorphins, etc, help your mood. Do you have a job on campus? If not, why not try to find out if there are any student jobs available, even if just a couple hours a week sitting at a desk, or filing in an office? (A counselor may be able to help you look into this.) Working is a great way to meet lots of people, including administrators, and you can often learn a lot more about your school that might not be apparent to first year students.
Do you find yourself primarily hanging out with other first year students? I think this is a horrible idea. Sure, you need friends in your cohort, but you also need upper class friends. They can tell you about professors and classes, they chose to return to the school, so they can help you see the positive things that they see about the school. A bunch of first year students, all feeling homesick or isolated, doesn’t help anyone see the positives, or know where to find fun, etc.
Many schools, even in more rural areas, have volunteer groups, etc. Groups that go to pet shelters, or tutor school kids, etc. Why not see if there is such a group you just haven’t heard about on your campus. Again, approaching a dorm RA (or whatever they call student leaders paid to help students in dorms) or campus administrator for student activities can be a good way to find out this stuff.
There was some reason you chose your school. Try to think back to last spring. Your parents are right in encouraging you to stick out the year; often the second semester ends up much better than the first. You may notice some new faces in your dorm as Jan admits or transfers come in; say “hello” and smile. That person could be nervous, worried, etc, and need a friend.</p>
<p>The other thing to remember is that if you get good fin.aid from your school, you may not be so lucky if you transfer. Don’t give up your place at your school until you know for sure what another school would cost, in case it is too expensive for your family. </p>
<p>I just want you to know that lots of people feel the way you do and work through it; you really can control how you look at this time and what you do to make it better. If you don’t have any fun classes scheduled, look into changing your schedule, or finding a fun group to play games, exercise, dance, play music or whatever. Good luck to you. Keep us posted!</p>