<p>Okay, so I'm 18, and I have to live at my folks' place until the end of September before I go away to college. You'd think they'd treat me like, I don't know, an adult, at least somewhat? But nooo, they insist on barging into my room without so much as knocking. I understand that they're parents, but for crying out loud, when they barge in with me in... ahem, compromising positions, they get all mad. Everytime I try to tell them to knock before they enter my room, they go on about how "in my day and in the Old Country, there was no such thing as privacy from parents. You can only want privacy if you're doing something wrong. We have to insure that you have 'disiplina'."</p>
<p>How do I deal with my parents' (particularly my mom's) insistence to treat me like a fifteen-year-old, and complete disregard for American conventions regarding privacy?</p>
<p>Be cause I have a not-that-irrational fear that they’re going to treat me like this throughout my entire freshman year - they practically want me to tell them what I’m doing all the time in school, every day, and pry into every nook and cranny they can. They just don’t seem to recognise that they don’t have to be around for everything under the sun.</p>
<p>i don’t understand… your parents walked in on you fapping?</p>
<p>and unless you’re living at home, you don’t have to tell them jack s*** while you’re away at school. just wait till you leave then do what you want.</p>
<p>For now: hold it in until they go out for a little while. Or, like Dead Monkey suggested, use the bathroom. Or sit in the closet and let the door opening be the signal to put your pants on. (Just have a good reason for being in there.)</p>
<p>When in college: if they keep calling you, asking for constant reports, maybe ignore their calls for a little while. Explain that you’re busy with classes and such, so it’s really hard to always get to the phone. Let them call you once a week or however often, give them a clean update on things, and hopefully get a bit of freedom.</p>
<p>lol i can’t relate to the party about your parents walking in on you jacking off (i’m a female), but i can relate to the part about them not respecting your privacy. last summer i caught my mom snooping around my desk and my computer and reading my stuff >.> </p>
<p>you should definitely install a lock of some sort if they’re not going to back off when you directly tell them you want privacy</p>
<p>2.) Make sure that any computer you’re using is on privacy mode and set to lock itself upon going to sleep (with a password) so that they can’t go snooping around there</p>
<p>3.) Try talking to them again, less from the privacy perspective, and more from the trying to be independent perspective.</p>
<p>Well, I would suggest talking to them, but if they don’t respect your privacy, they probably don’t respect your opinion very much since they still think you are their little kid >_<. </p>
<p>I guess in your position, going to the bathroom would be great to do what you want to do. Also, where are you going to college, location is VERY important. If you are relatively close by (1 hour drive or so), then try to explain to them that you need to concentrate on your studies and to call beforehand to schedule a day to meet up (should be easier since they probably care a lot about your academics).</p>
<p>In a further place, you are a king. Same thing, but you will have so much freedom away from your parents…</p>
<p>Anyways, stuff you probably know already XD</p>
<p>Also, start buying stuff like porno mags, condoms, and cigarettes even though you don’t use them. Just throw them on your bedroom floor or whatever. It’ll be good for a laugh.</p>