Currently go to W&M. I agree that raising your SAT score should be a focus, but I do not necessarily agree that you should compare your APs to others. Your APs will be considered in the context of what is offered at your school, so comparing it to others in Virginia or not is pointless. Same thing with anecdotal experiences because neither of you has the full information that the admissions counselors will have.
W&M has become increasingly competitive over the past few years, but you can still be surprised. There have been people with some of lower stats get accepted into the college because they wrote a really outstanding essay (which they read thoroughly) or had many other great factors that made them a good fit. Early Decision if it is your #1 school will help greatly, but also make sure the rest of your app is top notch (essays, recs, any supplemental material, ECs/Leadership stuff) that are also important and largely more in your control between now and then.
Best of luck. Let me know if you have any questions about the school or whatever you need.