I’m a second semester senior, going to college soon (hopefully a good one). Just a week ago, the girl I’ve liked for a while said she liked me, too. We got into a relationship. We get along great together, text each other often, love each other’s company. The issue is that I live way too far from school (30 miles) to be able to drive to her house. My parents won’t let me drive to school or on the weekends because the cars we own are rather expensive, leading to massive insurance rates for teen drivers and an overall fear that I will crash the car. I told her in the beginning of this issue and I also told her that I would likely be able to drive soon (my parents told me it should be possible in a week or so). Today, my parents told me I wouldn’t because the insurance is too expensive. I’m absolutely devastated by this. I want to be a good boyfriend and meet with her often, but I don’t want to have to drive with my parents everywhere (they’re requiring that I drive with them even though I have my license). I sent her a text this morning explaining the situation, saying that if she wants to break up, it’s fine and I understand because although I can hang out with her, I don’t want to have to have my parents be in the car when I go to the movies. It’s awkward. I’m still waiting on a response, but in the meantime, I’ve been going absolutely nuts. I have several tests, but I cannot focus at all. I’m the Valedictorian of my class, great SAT/ACT scores/ECs, but I cannot believe that my parents do not trust me to drive alone. I’ve worked so hard all my life and they somehow think that this is all a colossal waste of time. My dad made the snide remark, “Instead of driving, why don’t you self-study AP Physics?”… as if I didn’t spend four years of my life slaving to get into a good college. Sorry if this comes off badly, I’m extremely frustrated and I just think to a certain extent I deserve some leeway, some trust. I really, really like this girl and my parents are giving me the finger.
Personally I don’t see the benefit of getting into a relationship as a second semester senior. You have, at most, a few months to spend with her. Especially if she lives far away. I wouldn’t worry about it too much- talk to her about it and see her opinion.
How…overly practical. I’ve been dating my senior-year-of-HS boyfriend for 3.5 years now.
OP, does she have a means of transportation?
Get a job. Buy your own car.
I’m sorry, this is hard and unfortunate. Spending time on romance is a great way to spend second semester senior year. Live in the present though.
First of all, does she drive? Can you bike somewhere to meet her? Can you get a ride with friends to meet her? Can you get a low-cost moped?
Seriously, car insurance for an 18 year old is very expensive, but as an occasional driver it shouldn’t be prohibitive. Parents sometimes have trouble “taking the training wheels off”.
Good luck.
Many fish in the sea. You are off to college soon. If money is an issue, get a job this summer and purchase car insurance for yourself through your parents’ policy. In the meantime, if you are dead set on keeping things going with the relationship, suck it up and get rides, meet somewhere, have her drive, etc. until you are more self-sufficient.