Never Been Away From Home & I'm Incredibly Homesick

I’m about one week into my freshman year of college. I’m attending a school about an hour and forty five minutes (with traffic) from my house. I am incredibly homesick and want nothing more to be at home with my mom. I have only been away from my house for one week at a time a couple times. I’ve joined a couple clubs, but haven’t seemed to get comfortable. I only have a couple people here that I’ve hung out with. I’m trying to expand my friend group but it seems so hard for me. I’ve cried every single day I’ve been here. I really want to be able to finish the semester, my parents have helped me so much financially and would feel like a complete failure if I were to fail. Do you think an hour and forty five minutes would be too far to commute?

Give it a chance – at my school, after a week not all of my clubs would even have had meetings yet. It can take time to make friends.

Are you calling or Skyping your mom to stay in contact?

And yeah I would not want to commute almost two hours.

Honestly, if there’s one thing I know all about, it’s homesickness. I totally get where you’re coming from. Sometimes there’s no easy fix, but you find your way eventually. I remember feeling depressed because all those initial friendships were so shallow, and the thing is, it’s true. You’ll make friends when you least expect it. Don’t try to force anything.

I don’t know what else I can say without knowing about your specific situation, but I hope this helps a bit.

My best friend had a very similar situation her first semester freshman year and its really common, trust me. First semester is extremely hard. I did not make any real friends at all my first semester, it was my second semester that I finally started meeting people I felt like I clicked with. In my best friend’s case, she would call me crying almost every day for months about how miserable she was at school and she even considered transferring. I, as well as her parents, told her to stick it out until second semester and she did and now she loves school. It is a really really hard transition period and there is no right or wrong way to go about it but I promise you will feel better with time. There is so much free time in college and you don’t know what to do with it and thats when you feel most upset so eliminate that, ask someone in class if they want to go get lunch or do homework with you. Once you start putting yourself out there, you will meet more people! Good luck!