<p>My D is a college freshman. I thought she'd be able to do the work but might have a hard time socially, but the opposite is true. Her calls home are effusive about the great times she's having--going to dinner, watching football games, getting to know the city.</p>
<p>But--beginning in early Oct, the calls included casual references to bombing tests that were "impossibly hard--I studied but there's no way anyone could do well." Worse, she's pulled at least 4 all-nighters writing short essays or short papers. And she's told me that she's walking from the library late at night without an escort, even though I'd exacted a promise from her never to do that. Finally--and I hate to admit this--she even emailed me an essay to ask if it was any good. (I should have said, that's not my job, but she was a mess and I just read it and tried to encourage her.)</p>
<p>She is a great kid, but was a procrastinator in h.s. But now she's in a really tough school and I feel like saying, "this is a privilege! Do you realize how many kids would love the chance to take advantage of this?" or "We're not paying for anything but As and Bs".</p>
<p>She's home on break this weekend. I have to talk with her about this, but can only imagine her saying that she's fine, no she doesn't need to talk with her faculty advisor...</p>
<p>Is this typical of freshma (so that I should leave her to pull out of what looks like a nose dive)? If not, what would you do? Thanks.</p>