<p>...amen...</p>
<p>You two make me laugh. I appreciate your bluntness - I'm far too longwinded (and probably too PC) for that. :)</p>
<p>Thanks, by the way...</p>
<p>no problem</p>
<p>Vivaldi. Each time I see the title of your thread, my eyes begin to swell up. I think of how horrible school was walking around telling people that my life was over. Tears stream over my cheeks when I think of how you will succed at life and I will not. Who would ever want to go to schools like Harvard, Princeton, Middlebury, or the such. Yes, the South Dakota school of mining is all that is left for me. A life in the coal mines ("clean" coal if I'm lucky) for me. But Yale is not far out of site. When I sit dying of dirty lungs, some Yale grad will come and sue the government for millions of dollars, and while I won't see a penny of it, I can be happy knowing that someone who actually deserves it got the lawyers fee, and movie rights, while my life was spent heating their house.</p>
<p>But seriously, I know that while most of us are dissapointed, I am very happy for all who have been accepted. Your title wouldn't affect people unless they already had those feelings of sadness (not undeserved). As we saw in iplayoboe's case, even Yale can be terribly wrong.</p>
<p>(And I appologize to all of the coal miners, graduates of the South Dakota School of Mining, trial lawyers who have made millions off movie rights, and any others I have offended.)</p>
<p>Yale doesnt make you succeed, you make yourself succeed. Make the best of where ever you go.</p>
<p>exactly...just look at the crazy poetry lady (got a PhD from Yale graduate school i do believe) who sells poetry on the streets of new haven...wonderful lady...but yeah</p>
<p>Hahah, we WILL be successful, and who knows? We might see eachother some day in grad school, med school, law school, etc. </p>
<p>Congrats on all acceptees. I look forward to seeing you all at sporting events. Hehehe</p>
<p>OH!......are you talking about the Shakespeare Lady?!........if you are..she was climbing up our dorm walls.....shes a bit of a nut job.</p>
<p>vivaldi, i don't know what about my post made you think i couldn't 'handle it,' what i was saying is that I don't think this is an appropriate form of celebration, and i was responding to another person. If this thread was made to show off, which could be the case, i think its classless.</p>
<p>Props to Nickleby for a classy post.</p>
<p>It's funny how most people recently accepted seem to detail a positive experience. Mine was absolutely awful. I spent the entire day almost in tears - and not the good kind.</p>
<p>Yes, I was accepted. Yes, I know how much of a blessing that is. My parents are ecstatic, many people at school congratulated me.</p>
<p>But the person who means the most to me has said nothing on the subject yet. Absolutely nothing at all; not so much as a "cool" or even "are you going to go?". </p>
<p>I'm pushing for U of C, because the aforementioned person is staying in the Chicago area for college, but my parents are horrified at this thought (both went to U of C, and both don't understand why I would pick it over Yale). </p>
<p>I'm half miserable...</p>
<p>squirrel, where in Chicago are you?</p>
<p>he means more to you than your parents, and yet he doesn't care about hurting you on what should have been one of the best days of your life?</p>
<p>heh..if that person can't be happy for u than that person really doesn't love you..maybe you're mistakening love(if u think it's love) for somethin else..dont be stupid..dont let those things be a factor in deciding where to go..</p>
<p>watup Newt - I'm also a swimmer, accepted at Yale - u gonna swim for them? cuz I can't decide if i want to</p>
<p>Ohlookasquirrel: I'm so sorry you've had such a wretched time.</p>
<p>On the one hand, I'm a big fan of both Yale and the University of Chicago. Although my husband and I are Yale alums and our daughter is a happy freshman there now, I also think the education at U of C is superb. I could absolutely see picking either one.</p>
<p>But...if I were your parents I'd be horrified too at the thought of your staying in Chicago for the sake of someone who treats you this way. Giving you the silent treatment at a time like this is unforgivable narcissism. As painful as it may be, I'm afraid that you need to break away from this person. I promise that Yale (or another school, if you prefer--but one outside of Chicago) has its consolations.</p>
<p>To Ohlookasquirrel,
I'm a Mom, and I'm going to give you the exact same advice as Editrix gave.</p>
<p>To start off with an anecdote, a few weeks ago, I was reading a copy of "People" magazine in a doctor's office. The cover story was about an actress your age, Lindsay Lohan, about how she and her boyfriend broke up, how she was willing to give up her career for him, but he ended up dumping her anyway, yada yada yada....</p>
<p>That part of the story concluded with something to the effect of, "Lindsay Lohan was no different than the high school girl who turned down an Ivy League education to stay with her boyfriend, only to have the boyfriend dump her anyway."</p>
<p>Sure, U of C is a fine school. But if you select your college based on the sullen and selfish reaction of "the person who means the most to you," not based on your own hopes and dreams and ambitions, you will be making a HUGE mistake.</p>
<p>Think about it. Frankly, ANY friend (boyfriend or otherwise) who cannot be happy for you, and proud of your accomplishments, is not a friend at all. Getting into Yale EA is a HUGE accomplishment -- your friends should be hugging you, congratulating you, and cheering for you, not ignoring you and making you feel half miserable.</p>
<p>You're young, and you have your whole life ahead of you. Don't give it up for a selfish and sullen....(dare I say it?) jerk.</p>
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<li><p>Laertes: vivaldi, i don't know what about my post made you think i couldn't 'handle it,' - I wasn't at all saying that you couldn't handle it; I was saying that if I hadn't been accepted last week, I wouldn't have gone into a thread for accepted students unless I realized that the subject could upset me and I was prepared to deal with it.
what i was saying is that I don't think this is an appropriate form of celebration, and i was responding to another person. If this thread was made to show off, which could be the case, i think its classless. - For the last time, it wasn't made to show off. I'm not that kind of person - read my numerous apologies to those I thought I might have offended - and as for not being "appropriate," I didn't see the other boards' threads for accepted students criticized as such.
Ultimately, this thread is taking a new direction, one similar to that which I intended it to take, and I am happy with it. I think the best thing to do here is not to throw criticisms at whatever level of "class" I may have, but to let the thread continue this way. Clearly, I did not mean to be offensive, and clearly, I have tried to explain that more than I have wished to.</p></li>
<li><p>squirrel: Congratulations on your acceptance - I think you need to be happy for yourself rather than dwell on the reaction of one person, even if you are very close to him. In every college guide I have read, it lists not choosing a college based on proximity to friends or significant others as a cardinal rule of college admissions. In my case, one of my best friends reacted stoically, almost to the point of rudeness, to the news of my decision. Since I first announced my hope of attending Yale last year (or was it the year before?), he has backed away from me and has not been very supportive. If the other person cannot support you, your friendship with that person is hardly a strong one, and in your case, I can't imagine that this person is worth following to college. In that case, I'd say to go with the superior school. (You're in its board at the moment.) :)</p></li>
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<p>vivaldi,
Your unrestrained enthusiasm (as evidenced from your first introductory post to this board a while back) is probably partially what got you into Yale. Don't let it get you down that other people interpret your celebration as being bragging or rubbing salt into wounds. You have every right to celebrate on this board, and I found my eyes watering as I read your post about how your school and teachers reacted to your acceptance (I'm a teacher and a mom, so it hit me both ways). Sharing happy experiences is not bad manners on a public board, and you titled the thread clearly enough that the deferred and declined Yale hopefuls should have known enough to stay away. (God knows, I would have, as I do not take rejection well at all!). Just because they didn't and then felt sad or angry, does not make it your fault or responsibility. </p>
<p>Congratulations on Yale! You sound like a great addition to their campus.</p>
<p>Thank you! I can breathe again. :)</p>
<p>Hi Vivaldi87,
Another Mom here. Congratulations on your acceptance! Ditto to what MomOf2InCA said. I couldn't have said it better myself. </p>
<p>I've read through the entire thread, and you have done or said NOTHING, I repeat, NOTHING wrong or offensive. You are NOT bragging, showing off, or being "classless." My suggestion -- don't even try to reason in this forum with anyone who accuses you as such.</p>
<p>Relish your wonderful news, you have every right to celebrate!</p>