I will focus my lengthy post on addressing #4 - greek life at IU. IUBaccounting and brendancollins covered the others pretty well.
Based on your comments, I assume you are very interested in the party/drinking college experience. I will tailor my advice accordingly. For all others reading this, disregard the following if you are not into the party scene - IU has plenty to offer the more mature/culturally-inclined students.
- Ah, the much maligned Greek system. The reality for a young male IU student interested in maximizing his social experience is this: not being in a fraternity will limit your partying options. As @brendancollins has mentioned, house parties at IU can be incredibly sketchy. A fraternity offers you the comfort of knowing your surroundings and your fellow partiers. As a non member, you CANNOT enter fraternity parties unless personally invited by a brother of that house who happens to be your friend. And in most cases, it just becomes weird if you keep coming to frat parties as “someone’s friend”. This is because you have not gone through the same pledgeship experience, rituals, etc and are not privy to the daily operations within the house - all of which means you will always be looked at as an outsider.
Generally speaking fraternities can draw upon a MUCH deeper pool of resources to host social events than can unaffiliated students. Here is a list of reasons why fraternity parties are better than off-campus parties:
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-fraternity houses have the space to comfortably host hundreds of people (party basement areas, courtyards, lawns,
balconies, etc.)Off-campus apartments and houses do not.
-Fraternities have social budgets to purchase decorations, sound speakers, lights, alcohol, party themes, etc.
-Fraternities have the means to mobilize and organize every aspect of a party down to the last detail (pledges). Much
more goes into planning fun parties and managing risk than one would think.
-Fraternities party with sororities, which means not only a guaranteed turnout of at least 40+ girls on any given night,
but also the benefit of each guest being implicitly held accountable as part of an organization recognized by campus
administrators (if you get too drunk and do something stupid, you will face official consequences, as opposed to being
a random stranger at an off-campus party who could put their fist in the drywall and disappear unnoticed).
-Even once you turn 21 and start going to the bars (sporadically at first, then almost exclusively as a senior), affiliation
with a house will benefit you in the sense that you will likely know more people at the bars.
Now given all these perks, OP and other likeminded people, I’m sure you are thinking “well now I HAVE to pledge a fraternity”
Not so fast. Pledgeship is an incredibly time-consuming 16+ weeks, and depending on the fraternity, induces varying levels of physical and psychological discomfort. In reference to my above bullet point regarding fraternities having the means to organize parties, who do you think sober drives and cleans up parties at 3 AM in the morning? That’s right, the pledges. Often times, fraternities plan for parties 4 days per week (Tuesday, Thursday, Friday, and Saturday)
Even the handful of fraternities considered to be the most balanced have demanding pledgeships.
Now, assuming you make it through pledgeship, a new set of pitfalls await. Any time you combine a hundred 20-something yr old males under the same roof, reckless decisions are bound to be made. Obviously, many students fall off the deep end. Not everyone can thrive academically and professionally while living under a roof where drinks are flowing and the music is blaring 4 nights a week. If you understand your own limits and have the discipline to live a balanced lifestyle, then I think fraternity life could be beneficial beyond the social agenda. And even then, I think there are only a handful of fraternities that can offer such benefits.
Which brings me to my final point: Your goal at IU should be to learn how to enjoy life and meet new people while also getting your work done, learning and growing as much as possible, and establishing yourself as a budding leader on campus. The fraternity experience certainly offers you the opportunity to do all this. But you MUST be aware of the potential risks, and prepare accordingly. Yes, fraternity parties are better than the alternatives. But it isn’t worth it if you cannot take care of yourself. Your decision to join Greek life or not should depend on deeper considerations beyond a simple “Is joining a frat the only way to get into parties as a guy, or are there open parties?”
College is only 4 years. Everything you do at IU should be preparation for the real world. Fraternity life can teach you the social, time management, and leadership skills necessary to succeed. And you can have a hell of a lot of fun along the way.
Short version of my Long Answer: Absolutely join greek life.