<p>any of you in this situation? if so how do yo ugo about it.</p>
<p>i know people who used to be like that. they just kept talking to different people until the found ones that had stuff in common with them. they had to take the proactive approach.</p>
<p>You have to be open and socializable, but don't try to make everyone like you -- pointless waste of life.</p>
<p>I am very sociable but sometimes I wish I had no friends just so I could concentrate on school work at school more often.</p>
<p>having no friends is beneficial. gives you time to do other stuff too. and/or go insane</p>
<p>Haha me too lovethearts! In the start of the year I wished I was one of those loser geeks without any friends - they got teased but they didnt seem to care about other people's critiques..
But I guess it could be weird having ZERO friends.</p>
<p>"they got teased but they didnt seem to care about other people's critiques.."</p>
<p>That makes them losers?</p>
<p>Check yourself NoFX.</p>
<p>I've never had the problem of not having friends but I've helped like 10 people find their niche in school.</p>
<p>*clubs
*sports
*more clubs and sports</p>
<p>Not kidding.</p>
<p>And if you stink at sports, well, it kinda sucks to be you.</p>
<p>Sports is one of the best way to make friends :)</p>
<p>for some reason, I'm never the one to approach people to make friends. People always come to me. Like last week, I was sitting alone and this kid comes up to me and asked me to help him with the SAT Registration form.
But this has a few disadvantages; some kids are really pushy and just keep following people around and can'ttake a hint.
If I were going to make friends, I'd approach someone but keep a reasonable distance for a few days.</p>
<p>by common with you, i also mean people who will actually be willing to talk to you.</p>
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"they got teased but they didnt seem to care about other people's critiques.."</p>
<p>That makes them losers?</p>
<p>Check yourself NoFX.
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I think you misunderstood my post. I framed them as 'losers' because that's the main conception of them at school. And I was praising them for doing what they believed was right for them (focusing acadamically 100%), regardless of the usually feared 'loser' perception the majority of the students have.</p>
<p>stuck-on-1700, I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. People always approach me and I don't mind that because I'm friendly and I like to talk but when they stick on me like glue, we have a problem.</p>
<p>Stuck-
Did you consider that possibly this kid really had a valid question and you just happened to be standing there?</p>
<p>By the way, to the OP, although I'm not exactly middle-aged, I can tell you this will be ancient history eventually. Maybe you're just different? That's okay, there's always one kid like that, and I think it's admirable. Maybe it's your peers? That's okay, high school's only four short years, and everyone always looks back on their highschool years with some amusement at who they were.</p>
<p>bendrum - when you are in a room with 26 other kids and a kid who is at the other side of the room comes all the way up to you and not the other 24...I think it's more than just the desire to have a question answered.</p>
<p>ive been picked on my whole life..i have a disability but i have never allowed that to stop me...last yr was probably the hardest i had a autistic(more then mildly) best friend...she was great but was picked on a lot...more then me...this was at my new school she was my first friend there she used to be on my old bus...and i kinda turned against all the other weird kids(i still have a thing against 1) and the kids who picked on her..she was a senior now shes at nyit vip(autistic college program) and loves it.... i had the chance to start over this yr and i made some great friends...and i love my school its great i have all boys in my grade(its a mostly boys school) other then me...ive gotten used to it classes r fun..and the guys r good looking and i believe one likes me in that way</p>
<p>i have friends, but i don't have a best friend nor do i belong to a clique or group. It's rather lonely at times and i get quite jealous sometimes but i'm hoping that will change by college.</p>
<p>I think that one or two friends is enough. Any more than that is too big a crowd--at least for me.</p>
<p>Wow, Stuck, you sound unfriendly. Whatever you do, don't try to be something like a doctor or lawyer; you might have to work with people.</p>