<p>i'm a student at an ivy league school. i really enjoy it and i have made friends and think i'm pretty decently liked. </p>
<p>only problem is that no one ever texts me. i don't know why this is. i also always feel like i'm initiating contact with my friends. why don't people text me? is it a sign they don't actually like me? how do i become more "textable"?</p>
<p>i do try and text others, but sometimes, they will not respond. i always have someone to eat with and always have things to do on weekends, but it's always with the same three people or so. most of my friends live on my dorm floor and i can always hear what's going on and such too to find things to do, but i guess i'd like a bigger social circle as well. i'm in a lot of clubs and have acquaintances/work friends in all of them...but how do i move them from that to friends? </p>
<p>sighhh. i'm a little obsessive sometimes and i just want to be liked and have a good, solid circle of friends who text me and initiate plans...please help!</p>
<p>Who cares? Lol. As long as you have friends. I don’t text much, but I have a good (and wide) circle of friends. We’re normally around each other so there is no need to text. Plus, we live close to one another so if we really need something, we just go down the hall.</p>
<p>If you really care that much, just try texting people more.</p>
<p>I don’t text much, and I don’t have many friends, but I do have a couple great friends. One I talk to on FB chat a lot (in addition to hanging out) and the other we usually have a phone conversation which is SO much better than a texting conversation.</p>
<p>Maybe they’re busy? I’m a HS student but I know my friends (jokingly) yell at me all the time for not texting them back, or at least not for hours, just because I’m sometimes too busy to do so</p>
<p>Anyway, I wouldn’t worry about it. I sometimes feel the same way, that I approach people too often… but I’ve found that being really self-conscious about approaching people kind of sends the message that you don’t want to interact, a self-fulfilling prophecy. I don’t send many text messages at all, but I do have friends, and talking in real life is much more meaningful than having a shallow text conversation in any case.</p>
<p>Lol I don’t text much. I have 2-3 people who I’ll text frequently, and usually I’m texting others about meeting or groupwork, etc. Too many people spend too much time texting anyway…take advantage of the time and get more in tune with your surroundings :).</p>
<p>Most people who text all the time dont really have friends and when they are with their friends they are texting. Its rude and dangerous. People get hit by cars cause they walk in the road when they are texting and dont even realize they are in the road. Im not allowed to have texts on my phone and i dont care, but if i did i wouldnt do it alot. I think you can find friends who are cool without having to text them all the time. I think thats more usually girlfriends texting their boyfriends to see where they are so they know they arent cheating. Like every 30 seconds they ask something stupid just so you have to text back. And its not like theres that much stuff you really need to plan. People do it alot so they look like they have friends and are important, but they arent.</p>
<p>Most of the texting going that you see is definitely bf/gf texting.</p>
<p>And when there is a person that obsessively texts their friends all the time, they are REALLY ANNOYING cuz they text even when hanging out in person and it’s like dude. So rude. Get a life.</p>
<p>I do not text any of my friends except to be like “yo I’m here to pick you up”. </p>
<p>It’s ok.</p>
<p>But I do understand the feeling that you have to initiate contact/they do not seek you out. I think the key is to just be persistant. People are really busy (especially the cool people), so they don’t often think to text everyone they’ve met if they’re going to a party or show or whatever. Often they only think to invite the people who are right in their immediate vicinity. </p>
<p>So what I mean by be persistant, it just keep at it…with diferent people…not the same people…those people that “think” to text you are generally like your 3-4 best friends only. And it sounds like you already have that core group…but it does take a certain amount of “chemistry” for someone to feel like you are worth the core group label…so keep seeking out people and keep “coming onto them” (friend wise lol), and eventualy your core group wil grow a bit.</p>
<p>I enjoy watching the kids that are furiously texting in class. I sit there waiting to see if their thumbs will pop off. I had never been annoyed by texting until the other day in class when all you could hear was “click, click, click, click”. This guy next to me and the girl in front of me were texting! I couldn’t concentrate on the teacher!!!</p>
<p>If it makes you feel better, OP, the only person that texts me is my dad. I didn’t even know he knew* how* to text (or create grammatically correct sentences in English) =</p>