<p>My parents were separated when I was 1 and divorced when I was 5. I live with my dad now, and I haven't been in contact with my mother in the last 13 years. My family has no idea of her whereabouts. For this reason we cannot submit the Non-Custodial Profile. I want to request a waiver for it. The only problem is that I need a letter from an impartial third party describing my situation. I already asked my school counselor and she refused because she said she doesn't know anything about my particular situation and she cannot attest to the fact that we are telling the truth. She suggested asking a lawyer or a doctor. However, I don't know how our doctor would be able to attest to our financial situation. Additionally, my dad says he doesn't have the contact information of our lawyer. What should I do? Please give me advice.</p>
<p>A clergyperson would be a good bet- also, if your dad gets any help with his taxes through an accountant or has any sort of contact with someone that helps plan or manage finances, they might work as well.</p>
<p>Non-Chalant1: It might depend on the college, but most colleges ask for a letter from the family and a third party before granting a waiver.</p>
<p>thumper1: Thanks for the suggestion. The only people who have known me for a very long time though are friends and family, but I am not sure if any of these people will be considered "impartial." Any other suggestions?</p>
<p>You are making it sound like your family has no long term friends or other people who have known you. It could be a teacher, mentor, employer (yours or your father's), a doctor (don't tell me no one in your family ever goes to the doctor), the librarian....someone. They don't have to have known you forever, but perhaps the last several years anyway. It has to be someone who can attest to the fact that your parent is out of the picture. Isn't there school registration? Where I am, each student has to fill out school registration every year. Surely someone at your school has noticed over the years that you never (in all your years of school) listed a name or address for your mother. How about the school nurse?</p>
<p>more possibilities -- an old babysitter or nanny, one of your dad's co-workers, a parent of a long-term friend of yours, someone that your grandparents know -- their attorney, accountant, clergyman,etc.</p>
<p>Go back to square 1. Since no one in your HS has ever seen or heard of your mother at conferences, etc., surely someone could write you a letter. I'd call the college and speak to whoever is requesting the info and explain your situation in detail.</p>