<p>a small minority are stone sober. An even smaller minority are drunks.</p>
<p>I guess I am a “stone sober” minority, even though this isn’t because I have anything against alcohol. I think the majority of the people here drink on occasion but usually don’t go too crazy, lest they screw up classes or whatever. Very few people I know are heavy drinkers, most people are pretty smart about it. Based on my experience, I think you’ll be fine as long as you know what you want/know your boundaries but respect others’ (don’t preach about not drinking, etc).</p>
<p>right right of course. good advice</p>
<p>Are you a non-drinker because you’re just not into that scene (I’m not into that scene either, though I drink wine with dinner), or is it because you think people who dare to put any amount of alcohol into their system are low-lifes?</p>
<p>Students are totally fine with one of those, I take it you can guess which.</p>
<p>or..she doesn’t like the taste of it? I acquired a taste aversion towards alcohol many years ago.</p>
<p>no…first one of gomestar…i actually drink wine at dinner too–i like the taste ..but for some reason i just hate like drinking to get drunk (not bc im against that or think its morally wrong or anything like that…all of my friends drink like its their jobs) its just i dislike doing it, and its kind of awkward when you’re the only completely sober one at a party filled with 100% wasted people…</p>
<p>ie: id rather like go out to dinner, chill with my guy and girl friends at one of our houses, see a movie, go bowling rather than just take shots and take pictures…i just dont want every night at college to be me awkwardly at a different party watching people fall all over each other</p>
<p>hope that clears that up</p>
<p>parties here aren’t 100% wasted people, most of the time it’s people hanging out and dancing with their friends. </p>
<p>there’s also a bowling alley and a very interesting movie theater on campus as well.</p>
<p>i’m a senior. back in the day freshman year, i was one of those people that didn’t drink. i knew some other people that were like that as well. now, we’re all drinkers. if you’re not broken in the first semester, you’ll definitely cave in the spring. </p>
<p>drinking in college is inevitable. just relax, have a beer, rip a couple of shots, and just enjoy the ride. it’ll be worth it.</p>
<p>It’s totally cool that you dont drink… as long as you are not going around the dorms preaching other people not to drink too…</p>
<p>Like even if you like to go out to party…you dont have to drink and can still have a good time.</p>
<p>Ya I’d give a party a try if ur with a bunch of friends. Drink a ton of energy drinks or something and just have fun and say screw it.</p>
<p>my roommate and his friend across the hall used to do a “pre game” of about 5 shots on friday night, and come back so smashed that they slept till 3 pm on saturday.</p>
<p>drinking is not that big a deal to all you “oh everyone drinks and you eventually will too”. If alcohol is such a high priority in your life then you must already be an alcoholic. To answer the question, it is not hard to find friends who do not drink and to find things to do. I myself to not drink and am just fine. You will even have friends that do drink, and if they are good friends they will not ask you to compromise your morals. There are parties that do not center around drinking, like dancehall ones</p>
<p>Gomestar seems like a person who only feels cool by proclaiming his love for alcohol and putting down others who can control themselves and have fun without it.</p>
<p>Hi Lauren, I am a Cornell freshman and non-drinker, and based on my experiences, you’re definitely not screwed. You probably won’t even be uncomfortable, either, as long as you can find those couple of buddies you mentioned.</p>
<p>My situation may be unique, but I am certain that there are many Cornellians out there who didn’t come here with a handful of good friends (including one very close and very sober one) who are doing just fine. There is definitely enough to do on campus that you don’t have to go out drinking to be a part of the university; there is almost always a concert or performance here, the Cornell Cinema is great, Helen Newman Hall (on North Campus where the freshman dorms are) has bowling lanes… you may also find yourself using your Friday and Saturday nights to unwind after tough weeks by just chilling with your friends. </p>
<p>Moreover, in choosing friends, you aren’t at all limited to non-drinkers. I count plenty of drinkers among my friends; we spend time together, I just don’t get drunk with them. In response to your question about a club for non-drinkers, a pretty active Facebook group formed during the summer and planned some alcohol-free parties and events for the first few weeks of school. To be quite honest, I didn’t attend many because I didn’t feel the need to- I had plenty of fun with my drinker friends who weren’t drinking those nights. If you get to campus and feel there is a need, then by all means, go for it; but there wasn’t for me.</p>
<p>Also, I thought from the beginning that I would like a substance-free dorm, so I was disappointed when Cornell didn’t have them. Looking back on it, though, I wouldn’t trade my present living situation for anything. Our hall has many more drinkers than non-drinkers, but the above posters are entirely correct that drinking inside of the dorms is extremely rare (and taken very seriously: ticket to the Judicial Administrator). Much of the drinking occurs in frats or off-campus, so it’s pretty easy to avoid. </p>
<p>Bottom line: If people think I’m lame or a loser, they certainly aren’t vocal about it, and I certainly don’t care. Essentially, I think Cornell is a fine place for a non-drinker. Don’t sweat it. Good luck in this whole process, and don’t let fears about being the only sober one influence your decision; at Cornell, you won’t be, I guarantee it.</p>
<p>"If alcohol is such a high priority in your life then you must already be an alcoholic. "</p>
<p>Nobody even mentioned anything remotely close to this. </p>
<p>“Gomestar seems like a person who only feels cool by proclaiming his love for alcohol and putting down others who can control themselves and have fun without it.”</p>
<p>and you’re “that person” we’ve already mentioned earlier in the thread who believes that people who take any sip of alcohol are complete losers (you even said so in past threads. You words, not mine). I didn’t put down anybody who doesn’t drink to get wasted (not even I do that), I only like to laugh at those who are so self-righteous like yourself and think any and all alcohol is evil. For the record, I don’t ‘love alcohol’, however I do love a fine wine with dinner. I’d still drink it if there wasn’t any alcohol. Oh what a loser I must be in your eye =)</p>
<p>intl_echo - nice post!</p>
<p>thanks so much intl_echo…i really really appreciated that and it made me feel ten times better…</p>