<p>My son got admission to Brigham Young University undergraduate program as Non-LDA student. Is anyone has Non-LDA student experience at Brigham Young University? how is the social life for non-mormon students at campus? any suggestions?</p>
<p>[Hi</a>, I’m not a Mormon: What life can be like for non-LDS at BYU – U N I V E R S E](<a href=“http://universe.byu.edu/beta/2011/11/27/hi-im-not-a-mormon/]Hi”>http://universe.byu.edu/beta/2011/11/27/hi-im-not-a-mormon/)</p>
<p>Hey NM, you really are non-LDA, since I think it’s really non-LDS 
! Don’t have any real answers about BYU, sorry. I can tell you that my friend’s son is there studying chemistry and he LOVES it and thinks his professors are wonderful. Good luck.</p>
<p>I have a good friend who went to high school as a non-Mormon in Provo. The town itself is 90% Mormom and she really did feel like an outsider. I know that at BYU, you do still have to follow the rules about hair length and beards and being in same-sex dorms at certain times, for example. Your son could get in trouble for not shaving for a week or growing his hair out.</p>
<p>Something else to keep in mind is dating – it’s part of Mormon culture to generally marry pretty young, and most Mormons don’t date seriously without marriage in mind. And often marrying non-Mormons is kind of taboo. My friend had a hard time dating in high school because she was not Mormon, and I imagine it would be same thing in college.</p>
<p>I am curious why a student who is not LDS would choose BYU ? Not doubting the academics there , but one I would think the feeling of not being part of the culture there would be enough to choose another school. I had an LDS nanny one summer and she was wonderful but she really felt out of place in our area, though there were two LDS churches.</p>
<p>My sister is quite devout, has 5 kids, two of whom have done missions ( one girl & one boy).
Even though economically it would have been a great deal for her kids to attend BYU, she encouraged them to attend secular schools that were percieved as being much stronger academically as well as not so insular.</p>
<p>However, since OPs son applied he must be interested, so I suggest that he visit and talk to some students & profs.</p>
<p>I know a guy who is not LDS but was an athletic recruit to BYU. He chose BYU for the athletic scholarship. Despite excelling in his sport there, he left after one year because of the heavy religious atmosphere, including people constantly trying to convert him.</p>
<p>I don’t know any non-LDS people who went there but I do know an LDS person that left. She just felt suffocated by the rules, despite being committed to her faith. The half dozen other LDS people that went there loved it. </p>
<p>I’d suggest he visit and stay overnight if possible. See if he’s comfortable. People have different tolerance levels :).</p>
<p>The nanny we had was very sweet and great with our children , but she was definately not comfortable with us and our community in general and that we are not religious . She didn’t try to convert us or anything like that , but she just wasn’t comfortable being so removed from the life she was accustomed to .</p>
<p>BYU is 98% LDS. How does he feel about following the restrictions even though he does not share the faith?</p>
<p>If you’re not a Latter-Day Saint, you’re a Latter-Day Ain’t? ;)</p>
<p>The student body president @ BYU- Hawaii, is non LDS.
[Muslim</a> immigrant first non-LDS student body president of BYU-Hawaii | Deseret News](<a href=“http://www.deseretnews.com/article/765574699/Legal-immigrant-succeeding-despite-obstacles.html?pg=all]Muslim”>http://www.deseretnews.com/article/765574699/Legal-immigrant-succeeding-despite-obstacles.html?pg=all)</p>
<p>I have to agree with others. Why would anyone want to be associated with a school that view “non believers” as less than. I would have a hard time respecting that kins of thinking…seems kind of ignorant to me.</p>
<p>Actually limabeans Mormons founded the school and it is private.If you don’t like the food at a restaurant no one can compel you to eat there .They are not ignorant because you don’t like the menu.It does a disservice to the idea of freedom of religion to denigrate LDS and that is from an Atheist.</p>
<p>Limabeans- I am not an LDS member but do live in an area with a large number of neighbors who are practicing mormons. They are wonderful community members and some of the hardest working parents in our public school. I never felt they viewed us non LDS as “less than”. I think that is a very unfair judgement you are casting. </p>
<p>If one does not want to attend their school because of the beliefs of the church and the school- don’t. That’s fine. To each their own.</p>
<p>I think that the founder of he LDS religion was a very talented con artist, but I think that mostly Mormons are good people & that like with other religions, just because the heads of the church emphasize certain tenets, it doesnt mean that followers intrepret them in quite the same way.</p>
<p>And they do get revelations.)
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<p>I guess if you think they don’t look down on you for not being a Mormon, that is your right. Just don’t "pretend " they don’t. BTW-- when I don’t like the food at a restaurant, they don’t tell me I won’t be “saved.” Haha…</p>
<p>Mormons are wonderful people. My neighbors growing up were LDS, and their daughter was my best friend. I kind of got incorporated into their “group” - attending swim parties and sleepovers, and sitting with them at the lunch table at school. They are family oriented, have great morals, and are overall very nice people. And of course all of them ultimately went to BYU.</p>
<p>That said, I can’t imagine going to BYU as a non-LDS student. I would have felt like such an outsider. They let you in - but only so far. And some of their lesser-known beliefs can come off as pretty weird to someone not of their faith. Finding someone to date would be extremely difficult, as dating outside of their religion is extremely frowned upon. They want to marry a good Mormon - and their families expect them to do exactly that. The amount of social/religious/familial pressure to stay within the bounds of their faith is very strong. I think I would have felt very lonely and miserable there.</p>
<p>Im reminded of lines between Matthew Perry & Sarah Paulson in Studio 60 on the Sunset Strip. Guess which is which.</p>
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<p>I wouldn’t choose to attend BYU and I wouldn’t suggest that my kids do, heck my sister who is Mormon didn’t have her kids attend BYU. But I understand the attraction of a structured environment, & i wouldn’t choose a school based on what students * might or might not * think of me.</p>
<p>And adult students dont need a dress code & certainly not one that bans bare arms for both men & women. :rolleyes:</p>
<p>Limabeans you seem intent on going after Mormons and you are coming off as intolerant as you claim they are.Bigotry regardless of who practices it is ugly.</p>