“Lazy” probably translates into “terrified.” I see so many kids at school – and my own daughter last year as well-- who were in the same position. It’s hard to move from what you’ve known your whole life to the great unknown.
Is there a reason she needs to be at a competitive school?
Here’s what I did with my daughter: I did a LOT of the groundwork, far more than many of the parents here. (Hey, my kid wasn’t a typical CC kid.) I found schools, I found programs. But here’s the thing-- I found schools I thought SHE would want, not necessarily the ones I would choose for myself.
I originally made the mistake of pushing too hard, and she pushed back. So I backed off. But when she finally did bring up the subject, I had the research ready.