<p>Agreed that pretentiousness is largely in the eye of the beholder, but to this beholder the pretentiousness level seems markedly higher in the Northeast than in the Midwest or West (and this applies more broadly than LACs).</p>
<p>My D & I have visited quite a few colleges, and she has somewhat similar criteria---definitely into liberal, definitely into academic quality, but she can't stand what she labels "snootiness," as in "We're better than the rest of the world and our question for you is whether you're good enough to be one of us, or (more likely) are you one of 'them?'" For her, Williams, Amherst, Wellesley, and Pomona fell into the "snooty" category when we visited (based on limited data, to be sure), as did most of the Ivies we've visited. Haverford, Bryn Mawr, Wesleyan, Bowdoin, Macalester, Earlham, Brown, and Cornell (the latter two not LACs) didn't strike her as "snooty." She thought Middlebury was somewhat snooty but she liked it anyway for other reasons. My impressions didn't always match hers, but then I'm not the one seeking to avoid "snootiness" so perhaps my "snooty-meter" isn't as finely tuned. </p>
<p>I'd note three of the "non-snooty" colleges---Haverford, Bryn Mawr, and Earlham---have Quaker roots. I do think the student culture at these schools is still imbued with something of the Quaker ethos, which emphasizes intellectual inquiry, egalitarianism, mutual respect, humility, personal integrity, community, cooperation, and service. We're not Quakers, but that combination of qualities pretty well captured for my D the combination of liberalism, high academic achievement, and non-snootiness she seeks in a college, and the kind of community of which she would like to be a part. Swarthmore, another historically Quaker college, is in some ways similar but it seems to be populated by such high-achieving types that we sensed a stress level there that wasn't apparent at the other schools. </p>
<p>On the other hand, D's reaction to Bowdoin and Wesleyan was also very positive along these lines even though neither has any historic connection to the Quakers. So go figure.</p>