<p>Well, after much agonizing I’ve decided to go to Amherst (sending my enrollment form on May 1 itself, no less). I love the small college atmosphere, the town, the financial aid, but what I hear about excessive alcohol and loud parties is really not my idea of fun. And yes, I am a prude. :)</p>
<p>Obviously, it’s up to you what you do with your free time–but personally, I’m not up for much excitement beyond Scattergories and RPGs. (Or companionable book reading!) I know I’m probably just fretting over nothing, but could someone please reassure me that old-fashioned nerdiness has a place at Amherst too?</p>
<p>yeah, i was worried about the same thing - but a student there told me that he has lots of things for him to do even though he's not a party person.</p>
<p>I, too, am going to Amherst next year. And I, too, also hate parties and alcohol. You're welcome to come to my Trivial Pursuit "parties" or movie nights. I'm applying for substance free housing, so a puking roommate hopefully won't be an issue.</p>
<p>hmm. I'm not prude, but not big on the substance use, but not anti-sub. I'm living in the sub free dorms b/c i dont want subs to be in my living environment, and I want the quieter atmosphere, especially when trying to sleep. However, I intend to attend the occasional party. Are people in sub-free socially inept? I'm definately going to make the effort to know people in other dorms.</p>
<p>On the subject of prudery and its consequences, Google "To His Coy Mistress" (not THAT kind of mistress) and read the poem, by Andrew Marvell (I read it in AP English).</p>
<p>Not liking parties doesn't mean you're socially inept. My D feels the way you do - she is not totally anti sub, but doesn't want it in her living environment, plus she hates the party scene not because she is a prude, but hates the way many people act because a party can't be a party without subs. She doesn't have to have subs to have fun!</p>
<p>I'm also considering sub-free housing, and am not into the drinking-partying thing, so don't worry, you're not the only one whose into tamer entertainment (though just because there's no substances doesn't always guarantee tamness... ;-)).</p>
<p>Wow, sick for a few days and look how the messages accumulate. In order,</p>
<p>darkstarrising: You mean my ivory tower can't be gated and barred to keep out the real world? I know, I know. I do actually know plenty of smokers/drinkers already (even "shroomers," though I can't yet say that with a straight face), and I'm fine with meeting them in college too... I just wanted to be sure I could find my kind of activities.</p>
<p>fire: "To His Coy Mistress," huh? Sounds intriguing. I'll definitely look it up. And by "prude," I only meant "stick-in-the-mud" or whatever other appellation you might want to apply to a non-smoker-drinker etc. But on the subject of physical intimacy, I think that's a personal decision; I plan to wait until I'm married.</p>
<p>evitajr1: Yep, that's exactly how I feel.</p>
<p>ahobbitinside: "doesn't guarantee tameness"--don't I know it. No reason why fun should have to be artifically-induced. :) And I do feel much better with this reassurance. Just a case of last minute decision jitters, I guess.</p>
<p>I said "physical intimacy", not "sexual intercourse". Waiting till marriage to have any physical intimacy could be kinda harmful to the existence of a courting process ;)</p>
<p>Also, are you religious? If so, how deeply?</p>
<p>I'm trying to get a sense of what kinds of people would be in sub-free.</p>
<p>I'll be in sub-free and am v. much an old-fashioned nerd; my idea of a wild Saturday night consists of listening to Beethoven and reading the thesaurus or Alice in Wonderland, maybe with popcorn.
(Other company <em>most</em> welcome!)
Actually, all the non-sub activities on this post sound quite appealing.</p>
<p>being an international, i've only had the chance to meet future amhersters online. and i'm surprised to see that more than half of those i know (through this board or through the Amherst2009 board) are going to pick sub-free. especially after so much was said at the DailyJolt and at that Amh09 discussion... i'm not a smoker, i only drink occasionally and not for the purpose of getting drunk, i don't take drugs.
so does that mean i would not like a non-sub-free dorm? i'm not trying to change your opinion, you're entitled to it. i simply find a pattern here that i can't understand. why is non-sub-free housing worse? am i uninformed?
i'd appreciate it if you posted precisely what you don't like in non-sub-free housing so that i could get a better idea of it.
thanks for reading</p>