NOT enjoying the hook-up culture...something wrong with me?

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<p>I remember a few years ago, my cousins daughter was horrified seeing girls sleeping with virtual strangers 2 weeks into her freshman year at school…it was like an EC, just for “fun”, but she also saw many hurt women that didn’t see themselves as disposable bodies to these eager guys. If you really can seperate your feelings, it’s fine, but many don’t and just pretend. Even with all the the hype about drinking and sex in college, many don’t go crazy and still have fun. Yale and other Ivies have clubs for students that don’t want to have sex at all before marriage and I’ve heard of other colleges that are trying to be supportive of all students and their choices. My teen daughters say they think it reaches a saturation point and then the cycle starts to reverse a bit. (at least they hope so)This was in the NY Times recently:</p>

<p><a href=“http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/30/magazine/30Chastity-t.html?_r=1&pagewanted=all&oref=slogin[/url]”>http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/30/magazine/30Chastity-t.html?_r=1&pagewanted=all&oref=slogin&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;

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<p>I honestly think that other people’s hooking up Issues or what not, is their business and no one else’s. Their adults.</p>

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<p>OP, try to look at socially conservative universities. They are few, but they exist…</p>

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<p>The risks associated with casual sex with people you don’t know far outweighs any degree of pleasure you might get from it, if any. There are a lot of people who agree with the OP’s views, but they get drowned out due to the unpopularity of anything that smacks of a conservative lifestyle these days. The OP is smart for not getting sucked into the hype of such behaviors that only serve to subject one to unnecessary risks for little possible gain.</p>

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<p>Conservatism isn’t looked down upon by liberals any more than liberalism is looked down upon by conservatives. In fact, more Americans identify themselves with a conservative party.</p>

<p>Anyway, to each his own. OP, you will find plenty of people who share your lifestyle at small socially conservative colleges or large diverse universities.</p>