<p>I came to college with 2 of my buddies from back home which was great. O-week was awesome and we all pledged aepi. We all knew a few people from high school so it was cool seeing them again. I talked to all the brothers at the events, participated in everything. It was a great time and i thought i clicked with alot of the brothers, a few even invited me back to their place to smoke one night, always telling me i killed it, etc. I went to all the events from what the brothers were saying they wanted me in the frat, i thought i had a guaranteed bid at this point. Bid night comes around though and both of my friends get bids and I don't. Now don't get me wrong i still seem them (although not as much) but thats not the point. every since not getting a bid ive just felt like a loser. Im most likely overthinking it but its effected my self confidence, i feel like a loser around my own friends. i just dont understand why i would click so well and not get a bid. Its pretty much like an organization has told me im not chill enough for my own friends. Ive become friends with alot of the pledge brothers and still see my friends and they all say i should rush next year, but is it even worth? wont it make me just a bigger loser to be a soph rushing with a bunch of frosh and getting hazed with by my own friends. i dont know what to do or who to talk to even without sounding like a jerk. i always joke about not getting in and people laugh but deep down i feel like theyve branded me a loser, not even as cool as my best friends.</p>
<p>We all have to face rejection at some point. I interviewed for a job earlier this year that I thought I was a shoo-in for. I knew the head of the hiring committee and she essentially told me I was guaranteed a spot. Guess what? I didn’t get it, and I have no idea why.</p>
<p>Sometimes there isn’t a clearcut reason why you’re rejected for something. Maybe they have 8 spots and 20 people they would love to take. It’s a numbers game at that point and has nothing to do with how they view you or what they think of you.</p>
<p>It’s a tough world out there. It’s okay to be upset after a rejection, but you can’t let it ruin your self esteem. Find other extracurriculars to occupy your time. Fraternities are great for some people, but there’s (hopefully) a lot more going on around campus that you’d enjoy just as much if not more. </p>
<p>Keep in mind that at some point you’re going to get rejected to a job, or a research position, or an internship, and you have to move on. It happens to everyone, and it’s natural to romanticize whatever you were rejected to. Chances are it wouldn’t have been as perfect as you’re imagining.</p>
<p>Oh, and it shouldn’t be weird to rush the same fraternity twice. If they judge you for it they’re definitely not worth your time.</p>