Not having a boyfriend

Pre-College Issues High School Life
21

<p>Honestly, I've been perfectly content not having a boyfriend for all of my life. There's always the "what if" factor, though...</p>

<p>Which is why I wrote my number on an almost-complete stranger's arm a few days ago.</p>

22

<p>I've been asked out three times, and all of them were sophomore year:</p>

<p>1) annoying kid with anger management issues who found enjoyment in irritating people
2) annoying pretentious kid with no concept of personal hygiene
3) a close friend that I'd had a crush on two years earlier but didn't anymore (he's still my best guy friend)</p>

<p>I think guys find me unapproachable... really, I'm just shy. Either that, or I'm [url="<a href="http://profile.ak.facebook.com/profile3/285/84/n1092600055_34685.jpg%22%5Dhorrifically"&gt;http://profile.ak.facebook.com/profile3/285/84/n1092600055_34685.jpg"]horrifically&lt;/a> unattractive<a href="I'm%20in%20the%20middle">/url</a>. :rolleyes:</p>

<p>Whatever it is, they just don't seem at all interested.</p>

23

<p>I choose to be single, I've had a few opputunities but idk I just like being single and not being tied down.</p>

24

<p>
[quote]
school> all else

[/quote]
</p>

<p>For those of you who think this, why? Is school so important so you can get into college? Why then, will you date in college? Because doing well in college is important so you can get into grad school and get a good job. And then, if you wait until college is over, following the same reasoning, you shouldn't date afterward, as you are so involved in furthering yourself in school or work that you don't have time. I'm sorry, I just don't get the "school > all else" reason for not dating in high school.</p>

<p>I understand not dating in high school for other reasons, such as feeling that it's pointless and you're too young. Or if you think that it's too much drama (as high school relationships usually are a lot of drama, though not always). And of course, from a girl's perspective, high school guys aren't that mature. ;)</p>

<p>I just don't get the "boys are a distraction from academics" reason.</p>

25

<p>umm they just suck in hs :]</p>

26

<p>^<em>laughs in concurrence</em></p>

27

<p>Yeah, relationships do suck in high school.
But I think the main benefit of waiting until college is because you will probably make smarter choices (of course, unless you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol, because then stupid decisions are inevitable). The choices you make as a college freshman will probably differ from those that you made/would have made as a high school freshman. Also, 4 years of high school gives you the opportunity to see what other people do in relationships and thus show you what works and what doesn't work.</p>

<p>Basically, in metaphorical terms, you should probably wait until the fruit ripens so that it tastes the best when you eat it.</p>

28

<p>This field is barren and joyously so. :)</p>

29

<p>Boys smell icky.</p>

30

<p>I've never had a serious boyfriend..I've dated guys, but I've never really had the desire to commit to any of them. There's time enough for that later. :)</p>

<p>Recently, I've just been asked out by Asian stalker boys..weird phenomenon.</p>

31

<p>
[quote]
SorryJpod, but I think like 9 out of 10 guys would have sex with a girl they really don't care about.

[/quote]

Let's be reasonable and not overgeneralize, really....</p>

32

<p>Fine, 9.5/10</p>

33

<p>My inner senses must concur with jPoD's assessment.</p>

34

<p>For some reason, most guys that I talk to will start to think that I like them after awhile. It's so not true! I just smile naturally during conversations and I have strong eye contact. That's how I am with everyone, guy or girl. So anyways, those that don't like me will stop looking at me in the eye. And the ones who thinks that I like them will start liking me and ask me out. Of course, I'm really serious about school and I have no intention of having a bf in high school. So when I say no, they're heartbroken. Do any of you gals have this same problem? And what should I do?</p>

35

<p>Just give them an honest answer and dont lead them on. Tell them you dont want a serious relationship.</p>

36

<p>I've never had a boyfriend, and I feel fine about it. Although, it does get lonely sometimes and I feel left out when some of my friends talk about boyfriends, but other than that I'm fine with it. It's not like I can't find one, since some boys have asked me out and have liked me, I just didn't like them back.</p>

37

<p>Never had a Gf and im fine with it. I feel abstenance is the only way (although i feel a relationship over 2 years long (not in hs) that is very commited also counts ) </p>

<p>So i guess im one of the "0.5 guys" that wouldnt have sex with some random girl.</p>

38

<p>Seventeen, boyfriendless, and I don't care. Never have had one, and I haven't really LIKED a guy in awhile. Lusted for.. that's a different story. ;)</p>

<p>Honestly, it usually doesn't bother me. None of the guys I know appeal to me in that way. The only time I feel lonely is after reading a Sarah Dessen book, because those make me go all mushy. :P</p>

<p>I just don't see the point in dating for the sake of dating; I refuse to invest extra time into a person that I don't have special feelings for.</p>

39

<p>i lost my last girlfriend because i was trying to hard to get some to early in the relationship. I would be overly nice to her, buy her amazing things and expect to get somethin in return. my advice to guys- take it slow, dont expose your weakpoints, and dont be overly obsessed. my advice to girls- dont do anything you feel isnt right, be completely honest (because if your not it ALWAYS backfires), and give the guy a break (guys are so stupid)</p>

40

<p>i really don't mind not having a boyfriend. being a senior (aka going to college next year!) really puts things into perspective. as a matter of fact, i really don't care about anything involving school besides my grades, ECs, and close friends. now, i'm not afraid to make snide comments when popular airheads make idiotic comments during beta club. if i feel like singing out loud in the hall, i do it. if i felt like wearing 80s attire for a month, i'd probably do that, too. it's liberating. haha, look at that digression.</p>

<p>all of the senior couples broke up last year, even if they were going to the same college. in all honesty, very few high school relationships endure. </p>

<p>i'll find myself a lovely music major with a delectable bass voice next year. mmm-hmmm!</p>