Not "partying" in college

<p>is there anyone that isn't into the heavy drinking/partying life style?</p>

<p>I made the decision that that is not what I want to do in life.. didn't in HS and in college it's definitely not something I want to get caught up in for many personal reasons. I'm just nervous about when I transfer to a 4 year school if thats all that people will want to do. I respect (the best I can) what people want to do with their life but I'm just afraid of being judged because that is not what I do or that is all I will be surrounded with. & Again, I try not to judge but I've been around it a lot and it makes me uncomfortable when it's around on a regular basis</p>

<p>Hey, don’t sweat it. I’m with yah here. I hate the college scene of people wanting to drink and party all the time. What hanging out with friends and talking isn’t fun? It’s actually pathetic to see people all hyped up for the party/drinking scene. You’ll always others who have the same views as you. When I hear of students in my classes say, “OMG I got so drunk last week-end, it was awesome!” I just laugh.</p>

<p>Partying is not a required subject to get a College degree.</p>

<p>If you don’t want to party, you don’t have to.</p>

<p>Although I will say with good warrant that you should try to enjoy the Undergraduate years if possible(You wouldn’t be able to if you are like me and work+fulltimeschool+trytogetallA’s). Doing whatever fun may mean to you; for me it is definitely not partying.</p>

<p>Don’t pay so much attention to what other people are doing in College(This could get bad); instead focus on what you want to accomplish from the process. If other people are treating College like a 5 year vacation then it will get to them in the end.</p>

<p>You will find a very diverse range of people in College. You will find people on both ends of the spectrum(People who just party all the time, and people who never party). Just make friends with whoever you feel is compatible.</p>

<p>I feel like I see a new one of these threads any week.</p>

<p>I’m on the opposite side of the spectrum from you. I’d consider myself a binge drinker (although lately not as frequent of one… engineering=buzz kill), but I still have met so many people who don’t drink or very rarely drink. Anywhere you go, you’re going to see the two extremes… People who go out and drink 3-4 times a week, people who never/seldom drink, and everything in between. If you want to seek those non-drinkers out, join some Christian clubs, you’ll see quite a fair share of them there… Also, maybe your school will have activities for Friday/Saturday nights on campus for people who don’t go out. We have that here at UF, they’re usually movie/art crafts/etc type things.</p>

<p>I don’t drink or go to parties where there will be drinking. It’s just not an environment I enjoy.</p>

<p>thanks for the views guys… on both spectrums</p>

<p>It’s a tough subject for me because I’ve seen some very close friends hit rock bottom because of it… and it’s like I want to say I told you so when they ask me for help… but I just cant. I help the best I can and learn from their mistakes because I feel thats all a person really can do… I’m mostly nervous about getting those “roommates from hell” who throw up on your stuff or trash the room… or someone who brings lovely illegal substances into your room and stashes it around your stuff… I know it’s very extreme lol but it’s those horror stories I hear that I gotta admit scare the crap out of me in terms of the “college” and “dorm” scene. I guess I gotta just hope I get lucky and can meet people who won’t drag me into that stuff lol</p>

<p>Thats me… miss paranoid… lol</p>

<p>alexitha… I’m really hoping that the only place I’ll find people who share the same views at my school wont be in a christian club of some sort i’m pretty atheist :P</p>

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<p>Haha, yeah I thought I’d throw it out there just in case you were a Christian. I have quite a few Christian friends who don’t drink and go to this thing called “Campus Crusade” at my school and that’s where they meet all their non drinking friends lolz. I’m also atheist though, so I don’t really know much about all that nonsense. </p>

<p>But yeah, like I said, look into some activities your school might offer on Friday/Saturday nights when the rest of the student body is out drinking.</p>

<p>Ill also have my boyfriend in the area so I won’t be entirely left hanging lol</p>

<p>yeahhh my reasons are completely not religious based… I’ve witnessed things and have experienced things first hand in the past I never want to have possible again so the only way to really almost ensure that is to just… not… :P</p>

<p>But I mean im addicted to caffine which in the long run could be just as bad health wise but I just like how with caffeine I can still remember the day before haha. It happened to me once when I was 14 in a bad part of my life and ohhh never again</p>

<p>I feel like I see a lot of these threads on here. :p</p>

<p>The decision to party or not party isn’t a big deal…it’s just a lifestyle choice. With that being said, it’s not the scene for me and not how I would prefer to live my life & spend my time.</p>

<p>When it comes to issues like this,</p>

<p>If someone has a GOOD REASON, I respect their choice. </p>

<p>Things that DON’T count as good reasons: Mormonism, irrational fear, etc.</p>

<p>Remember, it doesnt have to be all or nothing. I would say find a balance rather than polarizing to one side.</p>

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<p>aha you are so much smarter than them.</p>

<p>I don’t drink. I’m not even really that opposed to it, but at parties there’s only ever beer which I find completely and utterly disgusting, so much so that it makes me want to gag.</p>

<p>At my school, tons of people drink though…and Thirsty Thursday is huge. Every weekend there are parties at the athletic houses and a house behind a couple of the dorms, and people will go over to SU or down to Cortland to party as well.</p>

<p>I’ve been at school for 2 months now, and I’ve only been to one party. I’ve had alcohol twice, and not really more than a sip. I also have fun. My friends and I have movie nights, we go shopping, hang out downtown, listen to music etc. I’m content with where I am. You know, I’ll go out on occasion if asked, but I most likely won’t drink, and it doesn’t happen on a regular basis.</p>

<p>Honestly, it’s really not a big deal. Really, you just need to make a decision and then go along with it.</p>

<p>I’m not into it anymore. Combination of wanting to take care of my liver and lungs (especially since my family has a history of alcoholism) and not enjoying being the town idiot made me stop drinking, or at least heavily.</p>

<p>I’m not a fan of gigantic parties either, I like smaller shindigs. And honestly dude, drunk people can be very entertaining. Just the other day I watched my roommate projectile vomit three feet.</p>

<p>Just find a group of people who aren’t into the whole getting drunk thing. You can still have fun going to movies, concerts etc.</p>

<p>I don’t drink or party much. I maybe go to a party a few times a year. My bf is the same way. I’ve made friends who drink all the time, and some who drink on occasion to some not at all. I’m confident that you can find similar people and do other things on the weekend. I went to a school with 1,500 and now go to a school with ~ 6,000 and have been able to make friends at both that had similar interests.</p>

<p>It’s certainly possible not to drink at college. I know many people who do not drink at all, or just a little bit now and then. Some of them even go to parties every weekend. If you don’t want to be involved in anything that involves drinking, look around for other activities, go home for the weekend (if possible) or play on facebook/CC. Many Christian groups are known for their avoidance of alcohol and I know of at least one Muslim that joined a Christian group for this reason. As an Atheist myself, it seems odd to join a Christian group, so this is probably not an option for you. Do check to see if your future university has an Atheist or freethinking group that you can join. While the members may not have religious reasons for not drinking, many do not drink or drink very little for reasons similar to yours. People might ask why you don’t drink and you can give reasons if you want. Plenty of people don’t like beer and/or cheap liquor, don’t want to lose control, or don’t want a MIP. I’m one one of these people. You can always suggest non-alcoholic activities or even offer to be the designated driver, which may be the best reason of all for not drinking (though you would probably be with some very thankful drunk people). College is not all about drinking and partying and your decision to not drink/party will be respected by the vast majority of people.</p>